steveT95 Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 I feel terrible for the same reason I have done for months. She started talking to this guy in australia whilst we were together and continued even though I said I was uncomfortable with it. But for awhile I accepted it. But it increased a lot and they chatted more and more. He started posting funny stuff on her fb wall and even made her his cover photo and wife on fb. When I voiced my concerns they were dismissed. She was showing me something on her phone and hid it from view when their messages to each other came up. I know it is not technically cheating but towards the end of our relationship she was very flirty with him and kept saying about how she wanted to go and live with him in australia. I felt like I was cheated on. Occasionally a thing from a mutual friend on fb will pop up and I see his comments on her stuff. I feel like she is moving on already (two weeks and a few weeks before that of things between us been bad) I feel like she should be missing me but instead I feel like I have been left for this other guy. I just feel sh*t and heartbroken by her been like this towards him and not considering me. Any suggestions how I can get past this?
lop98 Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 Stop lurking and cut all the ways that allow that information to "find" you. Think about what's next and highly probable: they will meet up, document their dates, start a relationship, formalize it, you name it, they're all possibilities. Trust me, I kept checking up on my ex until he had a weird new follower, saw pictures of their first date, the picture she took of his apartment the next morning, how she came back to cook for him a couple days later, how she then started to refer to him as her boyfriend. It hurts like you have no idea, it's a major blow to the agony you're already in with the breakup, you feel like you're going to disappear. It's better to cut it out of your life now and start moving on just like she's evidently doing it too... if that means leaving FB or blocking, do it, every time you find new information, you'll be back to square one and stay there for days... It's also not enough to just block that darn thing, you have to multitask and get out there and meet people or just friends and have fun. That's what's worked for me anyway...
Author steveT95 Posted April 13, 2013 Author Posted April 13, 2013 They can't meet up or be together officially because they are thousands of miles apart. But that is handy for her because she can just act like they are together but not make it official. That way she doesn't look bad because that is all she is ever concerned about. I find the nights the hardest. I distract myself all day and am beginning to cope pretty well but at night I just lay there alone and think about things and get mad and upset.
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