lavenderlove Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 You probably all know the pleasures of collecting your belongings from your ex. Yesterday I went over to pick up the last dose of boxes and parcels leaving literally nothing behind. Half way through packing I notice that his dog is not there. So I ask him, and he doesn't want to tell me. She is his dog, because he wanted to get her, choose her and we got her just a few weeks before I moved out. It turns out the dog is very sick and it is because he let her sleep outside, because for various reasons he thought she would like that. She is a type of breed, that can't deal with that sort of thing. The point of all this is that he is beginning to understand that sometimes the things you love need to be cared for. There is one thing he said that made me feel like he is starting to realise what I have been trying to explain to him for last couple of years, and what lay at the core of our conflict. "I think I give too much freedom." I tried to console him about the dog, and called a taxi to leave. Even though I tried not to show it he saw I am not feeling well and asked me what is wrong, and I said nothing this is just me doing my best to cope with this situation to which he replied he thought this was a mutual decision. It is I said. I wish I could do no contact, but there is still a parcel arriving to his address.
CompleteFailure Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 "The point of all this is that he is beginning to understand that sometimes the things you love need to be cared for." Really? He's just starting to understand this? How old is he again? I'm sorry but I think he's just trying to play you.
Author lavenderlove Posted April 13, 2013 Author Posted April 13, 2013 Above a certain age I don't think age has much to do with emotional maturity. His case is extreme. He has been respectful of my decision and hasn't contacted me, although when we are forced to meet he is kind of sending these signals which just demonstrates his weak character. If he truly and completely turned around which is such a slim possibility he would do a dramatic action towards getting us back together. But he isn't doing any of those things, and I am sick of waiting and analysing. I mean this is what I have been doing for so many years except back then it was about: does he love me? why doesn't he propose? etc etc So now if I go and try to analyse what would be going on in his head and does he want to get back together or not and so on I am basically at the stage I was before I broke up with him. I am so over this pain.
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