Can someone who is experienced with break ups guess what my ex is doing?!

[Alltheabove1212]

I'm having the hardest time with my breakup. It's been 7 weeks. What's she thinking?

At this point, I realize I most likely will never get back with my ex. When we broke up about 7 weeks ago, she seemed tired of it and kind of indifferent. She said things like "things aren't the same" and "it's not as comfortable as it used to be". Our issue was sex. She was my first sex and girlfriend. I had trouble getting up right away because I was nervous. She thought it was because I wasn't attracted to her. But kept saying how she wasn't happy with sex.

 

This was a week after we got back together and had an emotional moment. She was crying and saying she loved me. And she NEVER cried in front of me.

 

We had an awkward weekend and then she became distant.

 

Things didn't get better. the 3 weeks before we broke up, we had a bunch of fights that never got better.

 

She didn't want to work on things anymore, she got tired of the talks to fix the arguments.

 

I'm pretty upset right now. This whole time, from her point of view, she probably sees that I'm out having a good time and it didn't bother me. She even asked my friend how I was a week after the breakup. But he and my friends know I've been miserable this whole time.

 

I've had hope me doing No Contact she would contact me, but it hasn't happened.

 

I think one of our mutual (her) friends came over to drink once and took her stuff that was here without me even knowing.

 

I miss her and the relationship so bad. She was my first sex and first legit girlfriend, and I get depressed thinking about it.

 

Even her best friends don't know why she did the things she did.

My best friend said he talked to her and while they didn't go into depth about ANYTHING, he could tell she checked out and there is zero chance we'd get back together.

 

FAST FORWARD AND THIS BELOW HAPPENED TWO WEEKS AGO

 

What are reasons for an ex girlfriend to not make eye contact (she looked at me once and when I turned she looked the other way) at lunch. She'd turn and talk to my friend but it was like she was trying to not acknowledge me. What the hell?! It's been a month and it's pretty much her fault that she wanted to end it.

 

It's been almost 7 weeks of no texting/calling. And like no personal interaction.

 

Does she have another guy already? Does she miss me? What gives?!

 

She's always been one to completely hold in her feelings and not show hurt or emotion

[Kaiten]

Zayum! Your issue is similar to mine. However its a little worse. I could get her to talk to me on the phone every now and then.

[Kaiten]

OK first lets learn some things:

 

The break up happened. So all hell broke loose. Dont "expect" to get back with your ex so strongly. Especially not right after the break up. Dont put yourself through that.

 

NC is the game to get your ex to contact you. NC is to help you heal in the likely event that you wont get back together.

 

It just so happens that if a dumper regrets their decision that NC sometimes draws them out. Its not a magic bullet.

[uniqwa]

well if she's not able to show her emotions to you... O_- she may be hurt too.. YOU should try talking to her because we can only give subjective conclusions to how she feels.. YOU should seriously have a talk with her.. SEE if she's hurting as well. Most likely she is. YOU just step up and you talk to her.

[Kaiten]

Its obvious that she feels something towards you. Whether its good or bad, no one can know. At least not with this information. Now if she would be all around you trying to be friends and stuff that would probably mean worse. But i mean who can say?

[amaysngrace]

She's hurt that you didn't try to get her back.

 

It makes her feel like she doesn't mean anything to you anymore.

[Kaiten]

In my own experience, my ex did not even look at me either. It hurts but there is nothing i can do about it. The only thing i can recommend is to disappear from her life in every way you can. That might help. And dont give your friends too much info, lest she keep tabs on you.

[Kaiten]

She's hurt that you didn't try to get her back.

 

It makes her feel like she doesn't mean anything to you anymore.

 

 

Eh well i wouldnt say that so readily. When my ex and i broke up, i tried to mend things right then. Then a week or so later i told her i was ok with us breaking up. That seemed to make her dislike me more. Then, a couple of weeks later i talked to her and we had a great talk. I asked her how she felt and she said she still loved me but didnt know about trying again in the future. So i tried to make up with her and she declined. We havent talked in a month and a half now. Its been strict NC. And she wont even look at me now.

I have tried to get back with her (even gave her flowers) but now she is not even looking at me.

[amaysngrace]

Eh well i wouldnt say that so readily. When my ex and i broke up, i tried to mend things right then. Then a week or so later i told her i was ok with us breaking up. That seemed to make her dislike me more. Then, a couple of weeks later i talked to her and we had a great talk. I asked her how she felt and she said she still loved me but didnt know about trying again in the future. So i tried to make up with her and she declined. We havent talked in a month and a half now. Its been strict NC. And she wont even look at me now.

I have tried to get back with her (even gave her flowers) but now she is not even looking at me.

 

Yeah your situation is different than alloftheabove. He went straight to NC. You didn't.

[CompleteFailure]

I hate to break it to you but you need to understand this...

 

She didn't break up with you because she wants you. Your Ex broke up with you because she thinks / feels / believes / knows there is something / someone better out there for her.

 

This is the truth. It's also something that is insanely impossible to accept.

 

Good News though...

 

Eventually you will meet someone else who you are crazy and madly in love with and you two will ride off into the sunset together.

 

Don't believe this. You'll just be falling into the same trap that got you where you are.