blue_jay_bird Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 I got a "happy birthday, hope things are well" text from the dumper. Oh and at midnight .. after 10 months NC. Of course it a great birthday gift to remind your ex about how they broke your heart. AND yes the proverbial thoughts of "omg he's thinking of me" crossed my mind. NOW im just ****ing pissed. He took the one day that was about ME, and turned it into day of pouring salt on the wound. I don't f u c k ing care if he feel's guilty, or is thinking of me. The ex should know better? I'v never contacted someone I'v dumped, I don't want to lead them on. I typed "Thankx" back. YES i know I should haven't but I don't want to look like a bitch. .. I guess he just doesn't, want to look like a *******. BUT now he does... Why, do they do this? Don't they know its not helpful. Are they trying to ease their guilt. Not look like a bad guy?
martys Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 yeah but coming from an ex that shouldn't be in your life anymore is a bit weird. maybe hes starting to make contact with you because he feels now that the dust has settled he could send a cheeky text wishing you a happy birthday. a bit random from 10 months of NC. but you shouldnt have gotten angry about it, you should have just ignored it, if he replies back with other stuff like how have you been, etc, you can either tell him how you feel, or dont reply, it has been 10 months, enough time for the dust to settle down a bit. do what you think is best : ) happy bday!
january2011 Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 Are they trying to ease their guilt. Not look like a bad guy? Pretty much. Enjoy your birthday. I'm sure you've got lots of fun things planned. If not, decide on something fabulous and just go for it. Reclaim the day and make this day all about you.
Author blue_jay_bird Posted April 13, 2013 Author Posted April 13, 2013 Seriously? After 10 months of NC a Happy Birthday message causes you this much grief, anguish and anger? At this point, this is more of a "you" problem than an Ex problem. Your Ex's goal was not to hurt you, punish you, upset you, etc. it came from a good place, had good intentions and wished you a Happy Birthday. Why make it more than it is? By the way... Happy Birthday and I Hope things are well! (See, I'm no different than your Ex and we both said and mean the exact same thing.) This is another, why aren't you over your ex posts. Again, people underestimates the healing process of any one person. And any judgment is very hypocritical when both people are on a break-up form. If I was over him I would not be posting.. so the statement is mute. Yes it's been 10 months and No i'm not over my ex. and he will always have a special place in my heart. I don't understand how he thinks it's good intentions, I stated I don't want to hear from. That I cannot be his friend.
ThatJustHappened Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 Happy birthday! I'm sorry he threw you into such a tailspin, but the ache will go away soon. Enjoy your day!
Author blue_jay_bird Posted April 13, 2013 Author Posted April 13, 2013 (edited) Yeah, I have to understand. These emotion are just on one sided. He's got a new girlfriend, he's just being nice. Edited April 13, 2013 by blue_jay_bird
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