Art_Critic Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Panicking over the taxes he has to pay is understandable ? To me: I have to do my taxes = I have to wash my hair It's up to you how you categorize these flags.. red or yellow 2
Eternal Sunshine Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Overall, I am starting to have a really bad gut feeling about this guy. I am not quite sure on the details of why/what but the more information he gives, the worse my gut feeling gets :S 1
sb129 Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 I don't know what to think. Our date was a bit weird. This guy seems to have major issues. He told me tonight he has been in the ER several times in the last few years for severe panic attacks. He wants to see me on Wednesday but my interest has really diminished at this point. I'll write more later, too tired now. Next! :bunny: 1
MidwestUSA Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Imagine ending up in the ER with him and explaining to the doc "All I did was touch him 'down there'"! Sorry for the warped humor. 3
shayla Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 His words mean nothing when his actions are so.....bizarre. When he first began flaking on dates, in my opinion is that the conversation with him could have been for example: "I am not interested in a man that flakes on dates and gives mixed signals." and left it right there. You are accusing him of nothing, only letting him know what you will and will not put up with. Once he knows that, he will either step up, or not. You have your answer, he has his answer. On the rest of this relationship, honestly, I am starting to get the bad vibe that others are getting and I would let this one fade. I don't see any good coming out of this at all. 1
MsSmurf Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Ok so now you've got a new piece of the puzzle, his severe anxiety, that may explain some of his odd behavior but it certainly doesn't excuse it. He needs to be seeking treatment so that he can learn to deal with his anxiety and function properly in society. Until he does that he isn't ready to date and you need to move on. 2
Treasa Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Also, and I know I will be criticized for picking on this one thing, but that's ok. Anyone who goes to the ER more than once for a panic attack is just sad, IMO. I used to have countless panic attacks, but I never once went to the ER. All a doctor is going to tell you is that they're physically harmless. The worst thing that can happen is that you hyperventilate into unconsciousness (I was never that lucky), and your body will calm down on its own. I got help for my anxiety. This guy seems flakey and anxious and just weird. Plus he makes you question things and feel bad. That's...not good.
Star Gazer Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 My best guy friend went to the hospital quite a few times for anxiety attacks, as did one of my best girlfriends. Those attacks never affected them in their dating life though, at least not like the way TC is describing this guy.
Kamille Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 I don't know what to think. Our date was a bit weird. This guy seems to have major issues. He told me tonight he has been in the ER several times in the last few years for severe panic attacks. He wants to see me on Wednesday but my interest has really diminished at this point. I'll write more later, too tired now. I agree with SG that there is nothing wrong with having panic attacks per se. People who suffer from anxiety are still capable of loving relationships. But is this at all linked to his propensity for rescheduling? Also, in this situation, I think it's wise not to get roped into "trying to make things better" for the anxious person. You would have to accept he's the only one who can manage his anxiety.
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