"You're too short, but I'd love to meet you!"

[angie2443]

"Well you're too old and ugly, but I'm willing to give you a shot. Better make it count."

 

 

I thought OP was up there in age as well, which would, by this thinking, make him old and ugly to. So, if OP is older as well, I don't think this is a good come back. Reguardless, the lady seems rude. I personally wouldn't want to date anyone who said I was too (insert whatever physically limitation here). I'd rather find someone who didn't see my physically attributes as a negative.

[chex]

Desperate times call for desperate measures.

 

You're ****ing brilliant.

[PJKino]

Lets be honest no short man is any womens "ideal" as women said a short man has to make up for his shortness becasue its never a positive this lady is just being more honest and upfront then other women.

 

Obviously its rude and classless and id tell her to take a hike but not many women are out there saying my ideal dream man is short

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

I wouldn't go out with someone who said something like that. I mean being short kind of depends on the girl too, I am 5'6'' I like to date guys taller than me. If I was 4'9'' then dating a guy 5'6'' would be tall to me so it just depends.

[Disenchantedly Yours]

One potential answer is one never knows who they'll run into at the miniature golf course. More social opportunities are better, IMO. Also, the lady who, initially, without yet meeting the OP, appears to be 'settling', may in fact change her mind upon meeting him. Women do that

 

Well, that's true actually.

[TigerCub]

One potential answer is one never knows who they'll run into at the miniature golf course. More social opportunities are better, IMO. Also, the lady who, initially, without yet meeting the OP, appears to be 'settling', may in fact change her mind upon meeting him. Women do that

 

She most definitely might change her mind and realize the guy is great and more important than her height ideal, but still to have actually said that - that's so rude.

 

I mean do you think a girl would go out with someone that says to her "well you're not thin enough but ok, I'll meet you anyways"

 

I think the only girls that would go out with someone that actually says that to them would have major insecurity issues to begin with.

[carhill]

She most definitely might change her mind and realize the guy is great and more important than her height ideal, but still to have actually said that - that's so rude.

 

I probably would have agreed on the rude part 15 years ago, but then I got married and learned a lot. Now I just laugh that stuff off. People do what they do. IMO, the important thing for the OP is to get away from the cavalcade of dating profiles, get out of the house and socialize. If the lady is down on him for his height, well she is. In fact, I'd suggest that she wear her hottest heels because, man I love a woman in heels, even if she towers over me. Awesome. Lemons and lemonade.

[SuperGeek]

This will be a waste of your time and money. She's already told you flat out you aren't her type. So unless you need more platonic girlfriends in your life, it will be a waste.

 

Also, the height requirement is no laughing matter. Being 5'10-11 myself, I don't date any woman above 5'7. I try to stick to 5'5 (or below) as that is the best height I'm attracted to imo. The girl can still wear heels and not feel like she's towering over me. It's just biology man and the way it is when it comes to height requirements.

 

If a girl ever tells me I'm too short, I don't even call them back... I flush the number immediately. This doesn't happen that often as I don't even approach the taller ones any more.

 

SuperGeek

 

 

 

Apparently, I appealed to this local lady so much, that even though I don't meet her dating criteria, she wants to meet up with me.

 

She said that I was funny, however, she thought she might be too old for me (She's only 48) and that I'm too short to date.

 

Another "Short guy" thread? Of course! lol

[irc333]

Also, the height requirement is no laughing matter. Being 5'10-11 myself, I don't date any woman above 5'7. I try to stick to 5'5

 

Wow...a MAN who has a height cap/requirement? Well, wonders never cease! LOL

[SuperGeek]

You're damn right I have a height requirement. Tall women (in my experience) don't date guys shorter then they are. I have enough experience with this that I can basically say that approaching tall women has a very high probability of rejection. Holding the interest of a taller girl over the long term also seems to have a high probability of failure. So knowing that, I just don't approach the tall women and weed out wasting time on women that wouldn't have given me a shot in the first place. I have tried dating tall women and it doesn't work for me -- they always go date the tall guy at some point.

 

Besides, I actually like being taller than the girl anyway. It feels more natural than being the shorter guy in a relationship.

 

Everyone is different... this is just me! You can have the tall ones!

 

Wow...a MAN who has a height cap/requirement? Well, wonders never cease! LOL

[MrCastle]

You're damn right I have a height requirement. Tall women (in my experience) don't date guys shorter then they are.

 

And that's all it is.

[irc333]

I'm not entirely sure of your decision making process, you make it sound like you don't even approach women based on the fact they're tall (self-defeatism/lack of confidence).

 

Are you talking about real life women in public? I've actually dated a few tall women, they apparently had no problem dating shorter men. I just don't use it as an excuse not to approach them.

 

I like them either height either way.

 

I wonder what a 5'8" woman would feel about a 5'8" guy? Equal in height?

 

Anyhow, I'll throw another curve ball at ya, since you like to only date shorter women.

 

How about a 5'3" or 5'2" women that only has a height requirement that a man that MUST be 6 feet tall to date her?

 

Seen a lot of THOSE lately, too.

 

This one POF, has her profile entitled' SHORT GUYS Do NOT EMAIL ME!" or "DO NOT EMAIL ME, UNLESS YOU'RE 6 feet tall! or taller!"

 

Then she proceeds to whine about "What's with all the short guys emailing me?"

 

I emailed her, since she seemed to be looking for an answer.

 

"Hey, you're a short chick, perhaps if you gave men shorter than 6 feet a chance, you'd probably stop *itchin'"

 

Apparently, she's received nasty-grams from short guys in her area who had seen her *itchin' in her her profile about the lack of tall men in the area. I suggested she just MOVE.

 

 

You're damn right I have a height requirement. Tall women (in my experience) don't date guys shorter then they are. I have enough experience with this that I can basically say that approaching tall women has a very high probability of rejection. Holding the interest of a taller girl over the long term also seems to have a high probability of failure. So knowing that, I just don't approach the tall women and weed out wasting time on women that wouldn't have given me a shot in the first place. I have tried dating tall women and it doesn't work for me -- they always go date the tall guy at some point.

 

Besides, I actually like being taller than the girl anyway. It feels more natural than being the shorter guy in a relationship.

 

Everyone is different... this is just me! You can have the tall ones!

[normal person]

Wow...a MAN who has a height cap/requirement? Well, wonders never cease! LOL

 

I'm the same height as that poster and I have the same requirement. Just like girls oftentimes want a guy who's taller than them, I want to be taller than the girl. You have to factor in heels too. Walking around with a girl who's taller than you is not fun. Tilting your head up to kiss her? Standing on your toes? No thanks.

[tricolors]

I'm around 5'11". I dated a woman taller than me exactly one time, when I was about 20 years old.

 

She had to have been around 6'2", blonde with long hair, and skinny. As I recall I wasn't even really into her, but she was fun. Yes, it was unusual, and no, it didn't last very long.

 

I actually brought up the subject on the very first date we were on. This has been well over a decade ago, so going off memory here. I said "You realize most men don't like women taller than them?"

 

She actually told me "No, I don't think so. I think guys like it, I've almost always been with men shorter than me."

 

From her (lofty) perspective, I think she had trouble finding taller guys, so she had to pick people she was, you know, actually interested in otherwise, instead of just focusing on height. Women who are 5'9-5'11" can probably fare quite a bit better in finding mates a little taller than them...when you start getting over 6' tall, it's probably even hard to start finding really tall men. But what do I know.

 

Speaking of this subject, I used to know a man and a woman, and this dude had to have been like 5'7, and his wife was easily 6' tall, and HOT. He was short, overweight, and balding. He wasn't rich or anything either, but I don't remember what he did for a living. Used to attend social gatherings with them many years ago with a specific group.

[SuperGeek]

Yeah I've ran into many shorter girls who have a 6' height requirement. There is just no way to avoid it completely. My experience is that the taller ones (again my experience) typically will tell me flat out that I'm just not tall enough for them. After enough rejection by the taller girls, I've just stopped wasting time pursuing them. I'm not saying it couldn't happen in the future, but I just don't waste time trying to pursue them as the probability of success is much much less. (And no it's not a self-esteem/defeatism attitude, it's about compatibility and the fact that I believe most women want a taller guy and would rather them not settle).

 

A girl I dated a few months ago (5'3 or so) ended it on our third date and said she was going to see someone else and she did mention height. Something like "Mark is a great guy and he's 6'2"... so yeah you can't avoid the height issue with the shorter girls, but from my experience the height rejection seems to occur much less than when I've approached the taller girls.

 

I've dated a tall girl before and over time she _really_ wanted a taller guy. She liked me, but the height issue just ate away at her over the few months we dated and so it didn't last that long. It is my view that women just simply want a taller guy in general and that is okay with me. Biology is biology. Exceptions do happen, but it is rare.

 

In your case, the girl you mentioned in your opening post has already said you're too short. Why pursue it further? If it was me, I'd be done instantly. Why waste time when a girl has already made a statement that you don't measure up to her standards?

 

A girl that has "short guys don't email me" written on her profile wouldn't even garner 5 seconds of attention from me. I got better things to do like watching paint dry then to even spend the keystrokes emailing such a female. I also don't do online dating either so I can't comment much more.

 

SuperGeek

 

I'm not entirely sure of your decision making process, you make it sound like you don't even approach women based on the fact they're tall (self-defeatism/lack of confidence).

 

Are you talking about real life women in public? I've actually dated a few tall women, they apparently had no problem dating shorter men. I just don't use it as an excuse not to approach them.

 

I like them either height either way.

 

I wonder what a 5'8" woman would feel about a 5'8" guy? Equal in height?

 

Anyhow, I'll throw another curve ball at ya, since you like to only date shorter women.

 

How about a 5'3" or 5'2" women that only has a height requirement that a man that MUST be 6 feet tall to date her?

 

Seen a lot of THOSE lately, too.

 

This one POF, has her profile entitled' SHORT GUYS Do NOT EMAIL ME!" or "DO NOT EMAIL ME, UNLESS YOU'RE 6 feet tall! or taller!"

 

Then she proceeds to whine about "What's with all the short guys emailing me?"

 

I emailed her, since she seemed to be looking for an answer.

 

"Hey, you're a short chick, perhaps if you gave men shorter than 6 feet a chance, you'd probably stop *itchin'"

 

Apparently, she's received nasty-grams from short guys in her area who had seen her *itchin' in her her profile about the lack of tall men in the area. I suggested she just MOVE.

Edited April 14, 2013 by SuperGeek

[irc333]

A girl I dated a few months ago (5'3 or so) ended it on our third date and said she was going to see someone else and she did mention height. Something like "Mark is a great guy and he's 6'2"... so yeah you can't avoid the height issue with the shorter girls, but from my experience the height rejection seems to occur much less than when I've approached the taller girls.

 

I sometimes wonder about women who are tall as a TALL man. A 6 foot tall woman...isn't she kinda screwed? LOL I wonder if a woman gets THAT tall, she reverts to dating shorter men?

[MrCastle]

I sometimes wonder about women who are tall as a TALL man. A 6 foot tall woman...isn't she kinda screwed? LOL I wonder if a woman gets THAT tall, she reverts to dating shorter men?

 

I remember watching Missy Franklin in the Olympics. She's 6'2 and only 17 years old, so there is room for more growing there.

 

I guess her advantage is she's an athlete and has a lot of connections to big, muscular men.

 

If she was a regular girl, she'd be screwed.

[AD1980]

I sometimes wonder about women who are tall as a TALL man. A 6 foot tall woman...isn't she kinda screwed? LOL I wonder if a woman gets THAT tall, she reverts to dating shorter men?

 

Taller women around my height[5'8] to a little taller are the only ones to ever show interest in me and not care about my height probably because there limited in the dating pool just like short men

 

Its been the shorter to average women from 5'2-5'6 who seem to wan t tall men the most or at least 5'10 and whove been the harshest in bashing short men weird how that works

[tricolors]

I sometimes wonder about women who are tall as a TALL man. A 6 foot tall woman...isn't she kinda screwed? LOL I wonder if a woman gets THAT tall, she reverts to dating shorter men?

 

I think so, yes. When women are 6'0"+ their dating pool is pretty small if they want men several inches taller than them.

[HoneyBadgerDontCare]

In my experience, height "requirements" are more like guidelines. I've found that many girls are willing to "waive" their "requirements" if the right guy comes along.