Giac10 Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 (edited) Hello all, I went NC with my ex girlfriend about 7 days ago. Yesterday she texted me asking if i still had her shot glass that she left at my apartment...I was at work and didn't respond and today she texted me again... Her: Seriously its just a question and its mine so let me know if you ****ing have it or not me: i was at work when you texted me, but i haven't been at the apartment in a while her: you told me you had it in your car Me: yeah i thought i did but ill look when i go to the apartment to get my stuff and if it isn't there ill buy you a new one her: when are you going? Me: Whenever i dont work next Her: ha ok. Me: i work all weekend so it should be next week Her: alright. i doubt its still there but ok. Me: i said ill buy you another her: no. Me: you don't have to be rude, just trying to help her: I wasn't being rude. i said ha ok because what you said was very vague and i said no because its my fault i left it there Me: oh gotcha, ill let you know then, hope all is well. Soooo she texted me and i broke no contact, Did i say anything wrong? I was just trying to be nice and civil. I feel like i have to start NC all over again. Any advice? By the way she broke up with me and i do still miss her and love her. Edited April 12, 2013 by Giac10
GB25 Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 No you were polite, cordial. I mean she was probably just looking for an excuse to talk to you unless this shot glass had significant sentimental meaning..so if you truly want the relationship to be over then ignore from now on when she texts you with BS reasons..but if you like the attention and like to feel wanted then keep answering her attempts. I mean its solely up to you. I think a lot of posters after there ex reaches out likes to come on here and give the rundown bc they like to hear that there ex is still wanting to talk, they like hearing the validation that the ex is still thinking about them from complete strangers, not saying thats you but people do it.
cool1990 Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 Im going thru a simlar situation myself. Just wanted to add my pennys worth and say that NC is the way to go. Now i dont know the details about ur break up but what i do know is that u guys did break up and now u have to decide if its really worth the pain and longing that will keep on coming up shud u continue talking to her. Granted u still love her and miss her, so do i for my ex. But at the end of the day its very simple, u need time to heal and the only way to do that is to initiate and maintain NC. Ive been experiencing the same with my ex. She msgd me, we chatted cordially n politely for a while then i found out shed already moved onto some other guy. Its the emotional upheaval for them and they just want someone familiar to hold onto, unfortunately that happens to be u here. Now i may be projecting a lot of my situation onto urs, n u might be in a very different scenario but thats my two cents worth. Stay strong on the NC. She broke up with u, if and this is a big if, u do want to get back together she has to be the one who comes to u and NC is the best way to make that happen. Rest, is as always the individuals choice. Cheers
itto ogami Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 That's a lot of drama and talk about a glass. Don't engage again. NC means NO CONTACT. Not ping-ponging about a glass (and it's not about the glass at all....) Onward!
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