youngnlove89 Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 After my recent split with an emotionally unavailable bloke (I just don't feel Man fits the part), I have emotionally and psychologically become more stable (which is necessary when dancing on tables). I can think clearly, I can put my head back and belt a real laugh, I can go flirt with handsome hunks and do whatever my little heart desires. I don't have to wonder what he is doing anymore, who he is with, or if he is thinking of me, because it's all irrelevant now. The thing about no contact, ladies and genitals, is that you can't continue to harbor old emotions and hope for things to change. Instead, you make that change and let your freak flag fly! Hug a stranger. Dance on that bar table. Make a bet. Wink at a stranger. Make coffee the way you like it. Buy that special expensive thing for yourself. Pamper you. Take that trip. Do what makes you happy. Don't wait around for someone to decide if you are what they want. Ask yourself if that is really what you want? To wait around? To expect change that'll never arrive? To have someone have control over you? To let them dictate your own happiness? I was so dependent before that in turn it made me THINK that I needed him. That I'd be miserable without him. I become so caught up in changing someone that I lost myself. I made him my God, my world, I revolved everything around him. A boyfriend/girlfriend should be a compliment to your life, they should never become your life. You need to learn how to balance work, love, activities, friends and family. If you can do that, you will experience an oasis of serenity. It takes time. It takes practice. A day to day commitment, a promise to yourself that you are okay on your own (actually better off). You can be happy on your own. I know you can. Block your ex's now. Do what's right and relish in the benefits of it. Be confident. Be yourself again. Smile because you deserve too. Know that someone out there is waiting for your beautiful/handsome self. Know that you will find everything you are looking for. Believe and it will be yours. 7
OwlSoul Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 A boyfriend/girlfriend should be a compliment to your life, they should never become your life. True. To be honest, I was going to quit the forum because at some point I found it ridicilous how people on this forum are hurting and calling their exes literally perfect. Moreover, the amount of the threads about some minor things such as 'what to do, I spoke/broke NC/messaged to my ex' is frustrating. But... reading how people do the same right conclusions about what was wrong and how to became a better person gives me a power to bare with my own heart ache.
Jono85 Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 countdown to your next thread about how your ex continues to treat you like crap... i hope not...but i wouldn't bet against it..
Tree_Salmon Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 [quote=J i hope not...but i wouldn't bet against it.. Yeah, I hope you've learned all there is to learn from this 1
cavalier99 Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 (edited) Is that you in the bikini! Your smoking hot and cute at the same time! Cav no wonder he keeps coming back...and i dont understand the he cant get an erection anymore thing...glad your back on the market! His loss definitly. Lol Edited April 12, 2013 by cavalier99
Tree_Salmon Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 Is that you in the bikini! Your smoking hot and cute at the same time! Cav no wonder he keeps coming back...and i dont understand the he cant get an erection anymore thing...glad your back on the market! His loss definitly. Lol He cant get an erection because he no longer has any emotional investment whatsoever. he was probably just trying to fulfill his need but there was too much attached and it made him feel guilty. Your junk responds to your level of attraction to the other person. Physically and emotionally. He probably had no more physical attraction toward her since his emotional one went away.
Author youngnlove89 Posted April 12, 2013 Author Posted April 12, 2013 He cant get an erection because he no longer has any emotional investment whatsoever. he was probably just trying to fulfill his need but there was too much attached and it made him feel guilty. Your junk responds to your level of attraction to the other person. Physically and emotionally. He probably had no more physical attraction toward her since his emotional one went away. Nah. Not at all. He still wants me. I know this because my email didn't block him like I thought it did (it only blocked his chat messages) and he wrote me basically wanting me to come over and "hang out." He misses me, yada yada and how he couldn't sleep one night because he wanted to go kill the guy that raped me. I deleted the email, and then blocked him the right way. This isn't about him not wanting me. Because he does. It's just he wants me on his own terms and in his own ways. I'm done with that. I want more and he can't give me what I need. It took me along time to differentiate between what I want and what I need and what is more important. I'm tired of being tired,waiting, expecting, and wasting my time. Like I said before, I'm young, no wrinkles, smooth skin and a tight bum...why waste it on him? 1
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