hyperion83 Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 There is this girl see.. I see her around sometimes because she hangs out and lives next to some of my good friends who I see a couple times a month. I have always been attracted to her, but never made any moves until recently. On St. Pattys day, her and my friends were hanging out in a bar for this Relay for Life event. I sat down next to her when I arrived, not really expecting anything at all, but we ended up talking the whole time. I could tell she was interested in me and others said so too. I ended up kissing her later. No numbers were exchanged that evening. This past weekend, all of us went bar hopping. She and I were really close all night, holding hands, PDA, and making out later in the hotel room all of us were sleeping in. The next day, I was really hung over and had trouble connecting with her. I am pretty sure she noticed, and maybe it seemed like I was trying to avoid her, I don't know. Later in the day she said something to the effect of "I don't remember anything after the pool last night" This made me feel bad because the make out session was after the pool! I don't know what that meant! Suffice it to say, I did not know how to respond, so I said nothing. I pretty much avoided her the rest of the day because I did not know how she felt anymore. Even today, five days later I cannot stop thinking about her:(. I don't know how she feels after saying that. Any insight?
MidwestUSA Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 Sadly, she either truly doesn't remember anything after the pool, or she wants to pretend it never happened. Probably the latter. I suggest you stay sober when indulging in sex.
TouchedByViolet Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 She may still be interested. I would recommend contacting her, telling her you had a great time together and would like to take her out to dinner (or whatever you like). Her answer will be a better indicator of her interest level than what you have so far. 1
Author hyperion83 Posted April 12, 2013 Author Posted April 12, 2013 Sadly, she either truly doesn't remember anything after the pool, or she wants to pretend it never happened. Probably the latter. I suggest you stay sober when indulging in sex. Either is a scary notion. I am more concerned with the latter though. I also want to stay positive, but you should tell me if I should not be positive. Could it be that she said what she did to give me an option to pretend? Like she was expecting a vocal rejection for me or just doing that to find out where we stand? She did kiss me that day, and give me that look:), like the staring I want you look...more than one. The kiss was kind of awkward, like she was waiting for me to kiss her, but I didn't and she kissed me and gave me a weird face. When we said goodbye she cheek kissed me:( blah
MidwestUSA Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 She's still interested. Approach her and say "I had fun the other night, but we should do it again without drinking so much. I want to remember everything!" Best of luck to you!
Author hyperion83 Posted April 12, 2013 Author Posted April 12, 2013 She may still be interested. I would recommend contacting her, telling her you had a great time together and would like to take her out to dinner (or whatever you like). Her answer will be a better indicator of her interest level than what you have so far. Lol. Yep that answer would explain everything. I hate the notion of rejection! I would have to ask my friends for her number, so it would become public as well. I am trying to avoid public pity at all costs, so I want a strong explanation or indicator before I commit. BTW it seemed like she was trying to make me jealous too! I don't know how much of a flirt she is, but it looked like she was doing it the next day with others. I did not like that! You signature is kinda what I am hoping for, but I don't like the waiting and thinking.
Author hyperion83 Posted April 12, 2013 Author Posted April 12, 2013 She's still interested. Approach her and say "I had fun the other night, but we should do it again without drinking so much. I want to remember everything!" Best of luck to you! Are you just saying that? You changed your mind so fast. lol
MidwestUSA Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 Are you just saying that? You changed your mind so fast. lol No, I am sincerely offering that as advice/my opinion. After reading your second post. I save my sarcastic replies for the truly lost causes
Author hyperion83 Posted April 12, 2013 Author Posted April 12, 2013 No, I am sincerely offering that as advice/my opinion. After reading your second post. I save my sarcastic replies for the truly lost causes I work in IT and suck with sarcasm:rolleyes:
MidwestUSA Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 I work in IT and suck with sarcasm:rolleyes: It really deserves it's own font. Anyway, yes, she may have been giving you an "out" if you wanted to take it. She may be wondering if your actions were simply because of too much alcohol. It does sound like she likes you. So, go forth and conquer. With less liquor.
Author hyperion83 Posted April 12, 2013 Author Posted April 12, 2013 Go forth and conquer...my new motto. Is there an expiration? in otherwords, I don't want to have to contact my friends and ask about her. It makes me feel stupid. And yet, I don't have her number...I know that she will be at an event on the 27th and I will be there too. Can I or should I wait until then to make it seem more natural?
MidwestUSA Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 IMO, you should try, somehow, to get ahold of her before then. The 27th is a ways off. If she is feeling a bit insecure about your intentions (did we only make out because we were drunk?), that feeling will only intensify during your time of no contact. Having said that, I have no clue how social interactions in your age group work, and was hoping someone else could chime in here. But, I give you this as motherly advice, LOL! I'm qualified to do that. 1
Author hyperion83 Posted April 12, 2013 Author Posted April 12, 2013 Yes! Someone else chime in too please! I wasn't going to contact until the 27th, now I'm thinking I should?!?
curlygirl40 Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 I'm with Midwest. If you had a hard time connecting with her the next day and she felt awkward about the kissing, she might have made up the fact that she didn't remember to let you (and/or her) off the hook if you didn't have any future interest, so save some embarassment from it being awkward. I also agree you should try to find a way to get her number. I know a lot of women in my group of friends have always said that about a guy. If he's interested, he will find a way to get ahold of me. Is there any friend in that group that you could contact and ask for her number? Facebook? 1
curlygirl40 Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 And also wanted to mention that if you do get her number, as her out one on one prior to the 27th. Nothing ventured nothing gained. If she's interested she'll be delighted, if she's not then at least you know. 2
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