Author MMBastard Posted September 17, 2004 Author Posted September 17, 2004 Originally posted by otherwomen I'm confused.....who is sssss? Go to my other thread you'll get the idea. It's HER.
otherwomen Posted September 17, 2004 Posted September 17, 2004 what is your other thread? Is she the other women that you love?
ssssss Posted September 17, 2004 Posted September 17, 2004 Originally posted by otherwomen what is your other thread? Is she the other women that you love? Yes, that's me. But you know what, he is not capable of loving anyone else except himself.
otherwomen Posted September 17, 2004 Posted September 17, 2004 yeah that's my ex MM too. And to think I knew him Even though we have known each other for over 20 years, its amazing how you still don't know someone, and find out the hard way. That was me...
KissMyTiara Posted September 17, 2004 Posted September 17, 2004 There are TWO of MMBastard's OW here?!
Author MMBastard Posted September 17, 2004 Author Posted September 17, 2004 Originally posted by KissMyTiara There are TWO of MMBastard's OW here?! Oh come onnnnnnnnnnnnnn.....no, just joking........i think she was impying I were the same as her MM......
otherwomen Posted September 17, 2004 Posted September 17, 2004 no no no, not me. I have no idea who he is. Who is the 2nd??
ssssss Posted September 17, 2004 Posted September 17, 2004 [color=blue][/color] You think you're a player and that you broke my heart but I knew your game right from the start. I saw your game and I played it too, so laugh stupid player cause the game's on you!
ssssss Posted September 17, 2004 Posted September 17, 2004 Originally posted by otherwomen no no no, not me. I have no idea who he is. Who is the 2nd?? oh there is no second - at least not here. but if you ask me, I think I'm not the only one that fell on his lies. though he denies it. and says it's all gossip. but what's interesting is the fact that everyone around him is lying and he's the only victim in this. all his buddies and liars, I'm the one to blame for the end of our relationship and he's sooooo not guilty for anything. you just have to feel sorry for him, right? how pathetic a person can be! MMBastard, haven't you read any of the replies above? isn't that enough? you know, I had no idea how mad and dissapointed I was until I read all this. and thanks to all you guys cause I realised that someone who is so f****d up is not what I need in life. the only thing I feel sorry for is opening myself to someone who didn't deserve it. but hey, we all make mistakes. I guess that's the only way we can learn some of the most important life lessons!
otherwomen Posted September 17, 2004 Posted September 17, 2004 hi sssss, You are so right. I opened up my heart too. My ex told me he loved me soooo much. Has loved me for over 20 years, hoping he would see me again someday. Well I moved back to my home town to be near him. I uprooted my family from another state to come back to this hell hole. I have no one to blame but myself for believing in our love and him. We have a little girl together, she is 3 1/2. He had the chance to leave his wife when she found out, but he didn't. So I guess I wasn't his princess and dreamgirl after all. I mean I really really fell in love with him. I still am. I never liked him in HS. I thought he was a geek. He asked me to marry him when he was in the navy. I said no. I never even went out with him. Then he saw me on classmates in 2000, and that is how it all started. 10 months later came our little girl. Whom I love so much. He is not in his life. My husband is her "dad". No one knows and never will. He is not about to tell anyone, but he thinks I am selfish for not letting her in his life. I am not holding him back, if he wants to tell everyone. But I knew he wouldn't. I have the DNA results and he is scared to tell his wife because she asked him about her and he lied and lied and lied. So... I'm not happy in my marriage. My husband is nice, but I'm not in love. It felt good to be in love again with someone. And to feel loved. I think that is why I hurt so much. MM on the other hand still has his wife and I'm sure they are having sex and everything still. Before me he cheated on her with someone from work, a one night stand. His wife doesn't know. Anyways.... I'm getting by each day as best as I can. I have 3 kids that keep me busy.
EnigmaXOXO Posted September 17, 2004 Posted September 17, 2004 Snecky asks: you just have to feel sorry for him, right? My sympathies, first and foremost, goes to his wife and child. I think you've only gotten a small taste of what that poor woman must be going through! But you have my sympathizes second, Snecky. But also my respect and admiration!! You dodged a bullet, but managed to be grazed in the process. You'll recover and grow stronger (and wiser!). Look, every one of us has lost our heads to some screwed up relationship at some time in our lives. Whether we be male or female, or whether that person was married or single. We can all understand each other's situations (and pain) to some point. But you're a tough little cookie...with a good head on her shoulders and I can already tell that you have the intestinal fortitude to pick yourself up and move past this little setback. Nine months is just a drop in the bucket in the entire scheme of things. Look how much you've learned! I can only hope that your ex-MM grows up one day and sprouts a set of brass balls like the ones you've got! Personally…woman to woman…I think you and his wife should pummel him in a dark ally somewhere. Then again, we risk loosing a valuable part of ourselves if we stoop to someone else's level. Better to stay the good person that you are and take the high road. I bet there are a whole lot of single, emotionally well-adjusted guys out there who would love a classy woman like you. Consider your time with this man as "charity" and instead of hating him…keep praying (for his family) that he gets the professional help that he needs. And as for your ex-MM…I do feel bad for him, in a way. There are a lot of people out there who, for whatever reason, have underlying emotional and psychological problems that have never been addressed…or they are simply slower to mature. But it's hard to feel "sympathy" for someone who deliberately hurts so many others in their quest to get their own selfish needs met. And as long as that individual still has some assemblance of a "conscience"…if they admit they have the slightest understanding that what they are doing is wrong…then that deliberate action can not be blamed on an "illness" or lack of knowledge and/or experience. Smart people learn from their mistakes. Smarter people learn from other people's mistakes. Thanks for sharing your story (and lesson) Snecky! It certainly hasn't been wasted on me!
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