scorpion123 Posted September 16, 2004 Posted September 16, 2004 Hi, i don't really know what to do. My husband cheated on me one year ago and he even went to the extent of filing an anulment. HE is saying that we had not consummated and the marriage to be dissolved based on that ground. Gosh...he is lying through his teeth.....we had sexual relationship for more than 4 years before our marriage. OKay..then I contested with the truth written out. So, his hope of anulment is dashed and he cannot divorce me. His lawyer mentioned that that a**h*** will make me an offer soon. My question is "should I ever listen to his call if he were to call me for negiotations (i know there there is no more room for that...i am far too hurt for that)" OR "just leave everything to my lawyer & I should not let myself see that bastard again"?
Scott S Posted September 16, 2004 Posted September 16, 2004 My question is "should I ever listen to his call if he were to call me for negiotations (i know there there is no more room for that...i am far too hurt for that)" OR "just leave everything to my lawyer & I should not let myself see that bastard again"? I'm very sorry to hear this. That was a really crummy thing to have happen. In your current frame of mind, you probably should leave things to your attorney. Two reasons: 1. That's his job, & what you're paying him to do. 2. He has enough emotional distance to act logically, & will act in your interests. Whereas you are very upset, & chances are things will come out that you'd regret later.
Author scorpion123 Posted September 16, 2004 Author Posted September 16, 2004 thanks....Scott. actually i am wondering if I am really a weakling. The tragedy happened exactly one year ago. My emotions are really getting better. But I don't think I can face him. I know I am not in the wrong but I just don't want to see his face & eyes again. Am I right to say that those overwhelming hurtful feelings will crawl back into my heart again if I see him in person?
Scott S Posted September 16, 2004 Posted September 16, 2004 actually i am wondering if I am really a weakling. The tragedy happened exactly one year ago. My emotions are really getting better. But I don't think I can face him. I know I am not in the wrong but I just don't want to see his face & eyes again. I don't think you're a weakling. What happened was very hurtful, & I don't blame you for feeling the way you do. You are entitled to decide for yourself whether you wish to see him, whatever the circumstances. If you have to go to court, you may have to see him from another part of the room, just make sure you stay with your attorney, & keep him/her between the two of you. Am I right to say that those overwhelming hurtful feelings will crawl back into my heart again if I see him in person? They may or may not. Only you know your feelings. Even that being the case, you still wouldn't know for sure until you are actually in that situation.
Butchey Posted September 16, 2004 Posted September 16, 2004 Your ex sounds pretty messed up. To lie about consumating the marriage is almost funny (sorry). Let your lawyer handle your divorce. Make sure they have the pit bull mentality too. It will help. You have anger issues. Rightfully so, but you will have to get over it and maybe even find forgiveness someday. This is crucial if you want a good relationship in the fufture. Otherwise you will see your ex in every man or you will fall for the same kind of man again. Give it a year or so and work on your anger. It's eating you not him.
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