napy666 Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 I was talking and getting to know this guy 2 months ago then we stopped talking. Now I've seen him "View" my profile 3 times now so I sent him a message saying "What made you view my profile for the second or third time now? Having second thoughts?" He replies with "In a since maybe but when I care for someone I really care for them not just words but true feelings" So what is he saying exactly? And what should I do?
Leigh 87 Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 I am all for giving people chances - I gave my current bf an inordinate amount of chances and he has, against all odds, turned out wonderfully. In your case? I am not sure what he means? It could either mean: - he is interested: he stopped talking to you because he dated others or was just busy, and now he realised he is interested in you - he is not interested, but wanted to have a look at what you have been up to, perhaps he wants casual sex. If I were you, I would consider asking him:)
Treasa Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 (edited) I think he sounds like an idiot and he just threw random words into a sentence. I would say ignore him. If he wants to look at your profile, just let him. It probably doesn't mean anything. Hell, I showed my ex's Match.com profile to my friend once because it was so hilarious and we were both laughing over it. If you notice and start questioning him about it, it makes you look a little needy (in my opinion). Edited April 12, 2013 by Treasa 4
SmileFace Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 "In a since maybe but when I care for someone I really care for them not just words but true feelings" I am guessing he meant "In a sense" but still WTF 1
Author napy666 Posted April 15, 2013 Author Posted April 15, 2013 The guy messages me back basically telling me he did care for me even if we did only talked for a month or so. He does want to date me but why rush things? To me if it takes a month to a year or more to go on the "first date" why bother dating that person? I know taking things slow is sometimes in effect but come on..... I would usually always talk to men for a week then meet them not wait longer than that haha.
BluEyeL Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 On match, sometimes I search with certain criteria and then click "next" through the profiles and often come across profiles of people I've been on dates with before. I suppose they think I'm checking their profile on purpose, multiple times, which I'm not, I just click next. It might be something like that. If he has second thoughts he'd tell you directly.
Treasa Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 Is this the dude who called you a tranny? Ugh, if so, I think he keeps contacting you because he knows it's getting a rise out of you.
Author napy666 Posted April 15, 2013 Author Posted April 15, 2013 No it is not the guy who called me a tranny. This guy has feelings for me and this is the whole conversation; You What made you view my profile for the second or third time now? Having second thoughts? 4:02am Apr 10Dakota In a since maybe but when I care for someone I really care for them not just words but true feelings 4:20am Apr 10You So what are you saying? 6:23am Apr 14Dakota That I care about you? 6:50pm Apr 14You How can you care about me when we only knew each other for a short while? 9:51pm Apr 14Dakota Idk think about it. Someday you might understand how one can care about someone.... 9:58pm Apr 14You I understand how caring works. 10:19pm Apr 14You I did care for you too but you didn't think we would work out and didn't answer my texts the last time we spoke that one night so I thought you were no longer interested in me. 2:52am Apr 15Dakota Hmm more like not interested in dating at this sec, your a lot older then me, I'm still trying to figour out who I really am and dealing with probs at home, so what's the point in dating if ill just be depressed with my self anyways? Why should I let my self bring you down? 3:02am Apr 15You Well pull yourself together get your life in order and talk to me when you've man up and are serious about dating and know what you want. Because I know what I want and I am hoping that the next guy will be that "one" I stay with forever and marry etc. 3:28am Apr 15Dakota Oh sure I can man up... I can also play mind games better then most girls, do you think I don't want someone? Do you think I want to be alone? Why hurt someone when you don't mean to, why not try to develop something more then a label. Why not find someone who's willing to help? Someone to talk to... FFS if I wanted a gf I can get 5 in a few mins... ****s sake iv already been through that phase. I'm truely looking for a best friend, love, something true that is backed by love, not a oh your cute or hot lets date! I want someone I can talk to and injoy it. 4:22am Apr 15You Yeah I want the same thing. 5:36am Apr 15Dakota Then why try to rush into something? 2:02pm Apr 15You I don't know.
love1336x Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 Why did you stop talking? :/ Don't chase this man. Because you know what happens when you chase? The thing you're chasing runs awayyy.
Treasa Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 2:52am Apr 15Dakota Hmm more like not interested in dating at this sec, your a lot older then me, I'm still trying to figour out who I really am and dealing with probs at home, so what's the point in dating if ill just be depressed with my self anyways? Why should I let my self bring you down? 3:02am Apr 15You Well pull yourself together get your life in order and talk to me when you've man up and are serious about dating and know what you want. Because I know what I want and I am hoping that the next guy will be that "one" I stay with forever and marry etc. Don't say either of these things to anyone, ever. Don't talk about how you bring people down. You're practically wearing a neon sign that reads "Insecure" on it. And don't tell a guy that you want to meet "the one" and basically settle down. Actually, no one should tell someone else that. It sounds needy, and like you don't even care who the person is, you just want someone.
Author napy666 Posted April 15, 2013 Author Posted April 15, 2013 Don't say either of these things to anyone, ever. Don't talk about how you bring people down. You're practically wearing a neon sign that reads "Insecure" on it. And don't tell a guy that you want to meet "the one" and basically settle down. Actually, no one should tell someone else that. It sounds needy, and like you don't even care who the person is, you just want someone. Well I didn't understand where he was coming from and why not I do want to settle down whats wrong with that?
miss_jaclynrae Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 I think he sounds like an idiot and he just threw random words into a sentence. I would say ignore him. If he wants to look at your profile, just let him. It probably doesn't mean anything. Hell, I showed my ex's Match.com profile to my friend once because it was so hilarious and we were both laughing over it. If you notice and start questioning him about it, it makes you look a little needy (in my opinion). Rofl. I totally agree. His response alOne would warrant me ignoring him. 1
Estate Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 I was talking and getting to know this guy 2 months ago then we stopped talking. Now I've seen him "View" my profile 3 times now so I sent him a message saying "What made you view my profile for the second or third time now? Having second thoughts?" He replies with "In a since maybe but when I care for someone I really care for them not just words but true feelings" So what is he saying exactly? And what should I do? It's creepy.
Author napy666 Posted April 17, 2013 Author Posted April 17, 2013 The guy replies back with this "Wouldn't you wrather develop a loving relationship over jumping into one? Why do you think some girls end up falling for a guy friend that they are best friends with. It's the point of developing it so its healthy anuff to get married and keep it healthy."
clia Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 2:52am Apr 15Dakota Hmm more like not interested in dating at this sec, your a lot older then me, I'm still trying to figour out who I really am and dealing with probs at home, so what's the point in dating if ill just be depressed with my self anyways? Why should I let my self bring you down? How old is he and how old are you? I think you should leave this guy alone. If a guy isn't contacting you and asking you out on dates, he isn't interested. So what if he looked at your profile? Let him. Move on.
Author napy666 Posted April 18, 2013 Author Posted April 18, 2013 How old is he and how old are you? I think you should leave this guy alone. If a guy isn't contacting you and asking you out on dates, he isn't interested. So what if he looked at your profile? Let him. Move on. I'm 25 and he's 19.
Recommended Posts