Deactivated FB, good or bad idea ?

[Jord11]

I still have my ex as a friend, would it be better to leave FB on and show her I'm moving on or keep it off I'm day 52 nc

[BrokenHeartedSavior]

No brainer, my friend. GET RID OF FB! You CANNOT be "friends" with someone you still love. And if you didn't still love her, you wouldn't be here. Absolutely NOTHING good can come from being friends with her on there.

[Jord11]

Ok thanks, ill leave it off till I feel fully healed

[BrokenHeartedSavior]

Please do, for your own good. Just bad stuff.

[Jord11]

But seeing me happy and not caring about the break up anymore, would that make her change her decision

[New2Love4Now]

But seeing me happy and not caring about the break up anymore, would that make her change her decision

 

Ha that's what I thought for a while too but every time I saw a notification or message in my inbox I'd secretly hope it was her. I made the decision to block her and her closest friends on FB and haven't looked back after having peace of mind. You're in the wrong mind set right now and I know it's hard to see because you're still holding onto hope. Your only priority right now concerning her is to move on from her and worry about yourself. She's done this already and now it's your turn. I would de friend and block so you can keep your FB if you want but it's really a pointless distraction anyway. Good luck to you!

[thefooloftheyear]

keep your fb if you want but it's really a pointless distraction anyway. Good luck to you!

 

 

^^^this^^^^

[Jingle14]

No brainer, my friend. GET RID OF FB! You CANNOT be "friends" with someone you still love. And if you didn't still love her, you wouldn't be here. Absolutely NOTHING good can come from being friends with her on there.

 

 

This, absolutely 100%. And don't go looking at her profile either, no good can EVER come from it for you, it's torturing yourself.

[Jingle14]

But seeing me happy and not caring about the break up anymore, would that make her change her decision

 

Isn't that just what we wish, how often does it actually happen though? In reality, if they cared and wanted to be with us then wouldn't they be without these 'games' we play (and I've done the same, still do, stupidly even though I have no clue if he ever looks - or thinks of me, which is doubtful - at all).

[TaraMaiden]

I still have my ex as a friend, would it be better to leave FB on and show her I'm moving on or keep it off I'm day 52 nc

Keep it off and never turn it back on again.

But seeing me happy and not caring about the break up anymore, would that make her change her decision

 

Who cares what she thinks?? She's YOUR EX-!!

 

You should hope that's exactly what she thinks!!

 

You're not doing it to try to make her change your mind - you're doing it to stop yourself from further pain.

We always say:

if they really want to re-connect, they will find a way.

until then, do what you need to do....

[blindhope]

If you're still thinking about how it effects her, or what she'd think then leave it be. Whe she's nothing to you and doesn't matter then re-activate.

 

You could always block her.That way you still have facebook and don't have to be concerned with hers.

[AKisBaked]

I did the same. Get off. It defiantly helps.

[Damaged23]

I deactivated that crap!! My real friends have my number, everybody else doesnt matter. Well done, best decision you made.

[Renard99]

Assuming you actually use Facebook as a social tool, I see closing your whole account to be a little extreme. In some ways I see that as the ex winning, i.e they have facebook so you can't. What I did was block my ex. I can't see her account, she can't see mine. If you try and search for her it's like she never existed. This allowed me to continue using as I always had done just without the possibility of 'bumping' into her