mesmerized Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 Mehh who cares about boobs. Not according to Wholigan That you're beautiful? That's what Wholigan says This forum is good for getting your thoughts out, in my opinion. If there really are things about yourself you have issues with, here is a good place to let em out Yeah, they will most probably say it's not your looks. But what do they know? They don't live where I live and don't hang out in the social circles I do. Each demographics brings out a different set of expectations. I'm more aware of my surroundings than any of the posters here are thus I don't care for what they have to say in this specific matter. 1
Woggle Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 Yeah, they will most probably say it's not your looks. But what do they know? They don't live where I live and don't hang out in the social circles I do. Each demographics brings out a different set of expectations. I'm more aware of my surroundings than any of the posters here are thus I don't care for what they have to say in this specific matter. True but the world is much bigger than where you live. 1
todreaminblue Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 would it partially cover up being 250 pounds? would confidence, a great attitude, a fun personality, etc. partially cover it up? what do you mean by cover up........what fact?
Pompeii Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 Just because you accept yourself doesn't mean other people will. 3
Woggle Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 Just because you accept yourself doesn't mean other people will. Nobody is accepted by everybody. You can never be all things to all people but be true to yourself and you will attract people who are there for the right reasons. 3
tbf Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 Why does this thread make me think of the Austin Power mole scene? If you keep pointing at your mole, talking on and on about it, people will obsess about it too. Now apply that to height, ethnicity, weight, any trait. 4
SJC2008 Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 Call me jaded but I don't buy the personal acceptance, for men anyway. Men are fed all this crap here from men and women but the truth most people are self centered and have issues. My "sample" may be skewed because most of the women I've met I met online. They ranged from stage 5 clingers to control freaks, none were close to being emitionally healty in my book. YET they all had proir R's, LTR's and marriages. The stage 5 I met last year has a BF and never has a problem meeting men, and she's average looking at best on a great day. They say the common deniminator is you, well I'm tired of looking at me. I've gotten to he point where is it my voice? The way I walk? My big head? But men aren't allowed to be insecure. We need to be strong nights in shining armor so we can lift up a woman who hates herself.
ThaWholigan Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 Call me jaded but I don't buy the personal acceptance, for men anyway. Men are fed all this crap here from men and women but the truth most people are self centered and have issues. My "sample" may be skewed because most of the women I've met I met online. They ranged from stage 5 clingers to control freaks, none were close to being emitionally healty in my book. YET they all had proir R's, LTR's and marriages. The stage 5 I met last year has a BF and never has a problem meeting men, and she's average looking at best on a great day. They say the common deniminator is you, well I'm tired of looking at me. I've gotten to he point where is it my voice? The way I walk? My big head? But men aren't allowed to be insecure. We need to be strong nights in shining armor so we can lift up a woman who hates herself. Jaded ....
Author MrCastle Posted April 12, 2013 Author Posted April 12, 2013 Call me jaded but I don't buy the personal acceptance, for men anyway. Men are fed all this crap here from men and women but the truth most people are self centered and have issues. My "sample" may be skewed because most of the women I've met I met online. They ranged from stage 5 clingers to control freaks, none were close to being emitionally healty in my book. YET they all had proir R's, LTR's and marriages. The stage 5 I met last year has a BF and never has a problem meeting men, and she's average looking at best on a great day. They say the common deniminator is you, well I'm tired of looking at me. I've gotten to he point where is it my voice? The way I walk? My big head? But men aren't allowed to be insecure. We need to be strong nights in shining armor so we can lift up a woman who hates herself. Stop using the cesspool that is OLD and get the f*** out into the real world, man. There is a big difference between the two. 1
Author MrCastle Posted April 12, 2013 Author Posted April 12, 2013 Yeah, they will most probably say it's not your looks. But what do they know? They don't live where I live and don't hang out in the social circles I do. Each demographics brings out a different set of expectations. I'm more aware of my surroundings than any of the posters here are thus I don't care for what they have to say in this specific matter. If you are struggling in dating, which I don't know if you are or not. And you are as beautiful as some of the members have claimed... You know what I mean?
mesmerized Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 If you are struggling in dating, which I don't know if you are or not. And you are as beautiful as some of the members have claimed... You know what I mean? you're just trying to work me up to get a pic out of me. 1
Author MrCastle Posted April 12, 2013 Author Posted April 12, 2013 you're just trying to work me up to get a pic out of me. Would it really make a difference? Even if you were the most beautiful woman on the forum, or screw it--the most beautiful woman I've seen period. Where does that get me? You live somewhere else, first of all, and second, to my knowledge, I am not your type. So all that would leave is a lot of nights of me crying to sleep looking at your picture. I've done enough crying while looking at girls pictures in my lifetime
mesmerized Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 Would it really make a difference? Even if you were the most beautiful woman on the forum, or screw it--the most beautiful woman I've seen period. Where does that get me? You live somewhere else, first of all, and second, to my knowledge, I am not your type. So all that would leave is a lot of nights of me crying to sleep looking at your picture. I've done enough crying while looking at girls pictures in my lifetime No need to cry, I'm definitely not the most beautiful women on earth or on this forum. You can sleep well from now on. I struggle to find a quality man with mutual chemistry. I don't struggle to find a date or to find a man who finds me attractive.
ThaWholigan Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 you're just trying to work me up to get a pic out of me. My fault Sowwy!!!
chex Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 would it partially cover up being 250 pounds? would confidence, a great attitude, a fun personality, etc. partially cover it up? It would make them much more attractive. It doesn't really "cover up" so much as just add a new(or a few new) attractive attribute(s). Sorry, bad word choice.
Pompeii Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 Nobody is accepted by everybody. You can never be all things to all people but be true to yourself and you will attract people who are there for the right reasons. For example, let's say there are complete extremes here. Let's say I fully and 100 percent accept myself and 100 percent reject myself. If I was the latter and could consistently get any girl I wanted, I would gladly take it. There are alot of physically attractive people that hate themselves but don't know how good they have it. Screw that. To me, it's about attracting the most people possible. If you attract not as many people, there's a good chance you will not attract your compatible match. You have a much better chance of a girl getting with you and staying with you for being a model-esque Adonis than you do for having a "good personality".
Author MrCastle Posted April 12, 2013 Author Posted April 12, 2013 You have a much better chance of a girl getting with you and staying with you for being a model-esque Adonis than you do for having a "good personality". I seriously can't be the only guy who has questioned the meaning of life after seeing a totally hot babe dating a loser slob. Am I really the only one who has seen this? 1
ThaWholigan Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 I seriously can't be the only guy who has questioned the meaning of life after seeing a totally hot babe dating a loser slob. Am I really the only one who has seen this? No you're not . 1
Sivok Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 I seriously can't be the only guy who has questioned the meaning of life after seeing a totally hot babe dating a loser slob. Am I really the only one who has seen this? No, you aren't the only one. The problem with people's views on dating is that it's all about personal belief and perception - it's as difficult to sway the downers around as it is to convince someone to switch a religious viewpoint. If they don't doubt their perceptions in anyway, you're talking (or in this case typing) to a brick wall. Unfortunately, most of the threads that you've mentioned (and some of the comments they entail) are by those who stand by their dating beliefs. You'd figure they'd be on this site to try and improve but hey, if woe is me is the dating faith they firmly believe in, not much any of us can do. 4
mesmerized Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 I seriously can't be the only guy who has questioned the meaning of life after seeing a totally hot babe dating a loser slob. Am I really the only one who has seen this? What he said is "much better chance" not that slobs never get a girl. 1
AD1980 Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 Personal acceptance for who you are is fine and what we all should have but for a relationship you need someone else to accept you Hard to be blindly confident when you never succeed at something 1
ThaWholigan Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 Personal acceptance for who you are is fine and what we all should have but for a relationship you need someone else to accept you Hard to be blindly confident when you never succeed at something I was going to say something I thought would be profound in order to uplift. But I actually can't be bothered anymore for the first time. Good luck though, all you guys. 1
Lonely Ronin Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 Personal acceptance for who you are is fine and what we all should have but for a relationship you need someone else to accept you Hard to be blindly confident when you never succeed at something No one said anything about blind confidence. Acceptance is a very broad term and applies to a lot more than the physical. The number one issue i see on LS is an inability to accept their flaws. Most of the flaws I see on LS aren't physical, they're personality related. We aren't allowed to name names, but i can probably list off a dozen or so members from each gender that would send me over the edge if i had to be in the same room with them for more than a few minutes because they are arrogant, ignorant, abrasive, narcissistic, vain, or some combination.
ScreamingTrees Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 If one was to accept their limitations, what does this entail? Just living life and not caring about the rejections that follow, even if that is all that they experience? I can try that, but I don't know how long it'll actually last for before I just give up altogether and focus on other things.
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