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Is it wrong to ask out a girl who you dont even like?


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Ok, so there is this one girl I met in college(Not the same girl I mentioned in my other post) and she isnt super attractive or anything. Shes kinda overweight but her face is alright. And I dont even have feelings for her.

But anyway, we decided to go on a date like next weekend to this huge mall place. And since I never had a girlfriend before should I just ask her out even if I dont like her? Im 19 and I think I should have a girlfriend before 20... Ive been under constant pressure of not having a girlfriend once at 19. But i dont know, maybe I will gradually start to like her as we start dating? Suggestions plz

 

And btw, We became friends cuz we were in one of the same classes and we started talking alot

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I think it's fine if you think you need the experience but keep it casual and don't let it get serious unless you have genuine feelings for her. That would be f'd up.

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Before asking her out you should imagine how you will break up with her (since you are going to just use her as a placeholder). "Hey babe its been fun. You were a great placeholder but someone slightly more attractive than you has come along and now it is time to upgrade" Then with new girl you can do the same. Just keep upgrading her like an old smartphone when something better comes along. :sick:

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No... If you're not attracted to her at all, and you don't see yourself ever becoming attracted to her, don't. That's leading her on.

You don't need to use this girl so you can get experience. At least without her knowledge..

So you're 19 and you don't have a girlfriend. You'll get one. You're 19.

 

Hang out with her as a friend and maybe you will develop feelings for her over time. If not, you will find someone whom you will develop feelings for.

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This requires a thread?

 

It's common sense...if you don't like someone, don't date them.

 

It comes off as pathetic. On YOUR part.

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DON'T DO IT. She's a person with feelings, not something you should string along because you feel slow on your game. Put yourself in her shoes: How would you feel if a girl asked you out only to gain experience, nothing more? It would really hurt to be used. There's nothing wrong with treating someone with kindness but I worry this will end very badly: a broken heart, bitterness and resentment.

 

I didn't have my first boyfriend until I was 24. Yes, I felt a ton of pressure from family and friends but I didn't capitulate. I waited until I was ready. Work on your self-esteem and self-respect. There are plenty of women out there in the world. Don't try to force anything in the meantime.

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No, don't ask her out. You're wasting her time, and your own. Not worth it, and not cool of you to do to her either.

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