Sakura14 Posted April 11, 2013 Posted April 11, 2013 So my ex-bf and I have been together for about a year and 4 months. Our first few months were great until he became a little too comfortable in the relationship then began being a jerk to me for no reason. He hurt me really bad the first time so I broke it off with him after being together 6 months. He wouldnt leave me alone and wouldnt stop being apologetic for a month we were broken off. So I finally gave in and decided to give him a second chance. Everything was going well until just a couple days a ago, we got into this really huge argument which caused him to say some really hurtful things such as "Im not important to him" and after he said that I replied to "after everything Ive done for you and been there for you when you needed me, Im not important to you?" and he said that it was my fault for doing those things for him which led me to just hanging up on him and texted him that we were definately over. He was calling me non-stop and texting me saying that he was sorry and didnt mean the things he said, that it was just in the heat of the moment. Its been 2 days and he has been calling me about 3 times a day hoping I will pick up and he even wrote a huge email to me apoligizing for what he said, he didnt mean any of it and that he doesnt blame me for ending what we had. He admits what he did was very wrong. But when we broke up the first time he promised he wouldnt hurt me again and then he did it again!! When he gets really mad he always seems to say the most hurtful things to me that its so hard to forgive him for it. Now Im not sure what to do. Im still very hurt, upset and depressed. And knowing myself, I will find it in my heart to forgive him at one point. Which will probably lead me to giving him another chance. But if I do, what if he hurts me again?? He seems to have anger issues, but Im not sure if anger management will help him from keeping him from saying hurtfull things when he is really upset..... Not sure what to do.....
Leegh Posted April 11, 2013 Posted April 11, 2013 It is a huge plus in his favor that he admits that he has been wrong, as so many men can be bull-headed. Possibly since you are undecided at this point, you could send him an e-mail saying that you need some time to think about things. Sometimes people do really need time to think about things, and sometimes an answer just comes to them a few days or a few weeks later.
Infnitysign Posted April 11, 2013 Posted April 11, 2013 We dont even know if you miss or even love him still or are you just considering to get back together because you don't want to end a long relationship and start all over with another guy. Let him be until he stops being needy and insecure. You'll notice when he starts being a man. -when he stops apologizing -when he starts to treat himself better -when he is confident in his decisions -when he can let some things slide and not get mad at everything -learn to control his pride and ego \ when you see all of this in him then maybe give him a chance to be in your life
Author Sakura14 Posted April 11, 2013 Author Posted April 11, 2013 We dont even know if you miss or even love him still or are you just considering to get back together because you don't want to end a long relationship and start all over with another guy. Let him be until he stops being needy and insecure. You'll notice when he starts being a man. -when he stops apologizing -when he starts to treat himself better -when he is confident in his decisions -when he can let some things slide and not get mad at everything -learn to control his pride and ego \ when you see all of this in him then maybe give him a chance to be in your life Yes I do miss him and still love him but yet have a lot of hatred towards him after all the hurtful things he said to me. And honestly, I dont want to have to start all over with someone else. Although, a part of me is telling me to just move on and maybe Ill find someone much better. Even though he really is a great guy (when we dont argue) who treats me very well and he actually gets me. Im afraid Ill never find that in an other man.....
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