I have a girl problem

[Duits]

I have a girl problem.

 

So I moved out of my parents’ house and am now attending the university in that same town. After I moved out my parents got a foreign exchange student from Europe who also happens to be a very attractive girl not much younger than me. At first I wasn't very interested in her but when I visited my parents she would (at least in my mind) flirt with me. I ended up spending a lot of time with her because I tutored her in math and chemistry. Long story short I fell in love with her.

 

So a few months ago I asked her if she had feelings for me. That’s when my problem started. She freaked out and told me that she had a boyfriend waiting for her in her own country; she also said that she does not have a crush on me. Then to top it off she tried to embarrass me to my family by telling them what I had said.

 

Ever since then she has treated me differently. She now only talks to me when she A) gets mad at me for something or B)needs help with her homework. Other than that she completely ignores me and won’t even look at me. A few weeks ago I went on vacation with my family and I sat next to this girl for 10 hours during which time she said exactly zero words to me. I have asked her what her problem is with me and she will only reply with, “you are very annoying.” Personally I find that a little unfair because she won’t tell me what I have done to annoy her.

 

So I will stop with the rambling and get to the point of this whole story. Despite the fact that I shouldn't be, I am still hopelessly in love with her. It is so bad that I am literally not interested in any other girls.(not kidding) So I am hoping that somebody will be able to tell me why this girl is acting this way and if possible, a way for me to get over her.

 

Thanks in advance

[Realist3]

She is not interested in you. That is why she is acting that way. As far as getting over it; time and space will solve that problem.

[Quiet Storm]

She only saw you as a friend. When she was being herself and friendly with you, you perceived it as flirting.

 

She doesn't want to give you the wrong impression, so she is now guarded around you. In her mind, she must have strong boundaries with you now. She needs to make it completely clear that she is not interested in you.

 

She is probably very uncomfortable around you. She came here from a foreign country to study and was welcomed into your parents home. I imagine it is difficult to adjust and make friends, and now she has the added stress of having her host family's son falling in love with her (which makes it very uncomfortable if the feelings are not reciprocated).

 

In addition, she likely wants to be loyal to her boyfriend. Now that she knows you have feelings, she may be afraid that if she pays attention to you or has fun with you, it would be "teasing" you. She doesn't want to risk that her behavior is misinterpreted, so she is disengaging completely.

 

Focus on other things in your life besides this girl. Accept that it will never be. Keep yourself busy with friends and activities you love. Stop helping her with schoolwork. Starve your love for her by avoiding her, and any thoughts about her.