schoolboy error....one for the ladies

[picaso28]

so second date, had a laugh and got a little drunk. But still no kiss. At the time I didn't feel she was digging a kiss so I held back. But I'm now thinking this could have been a bad move. So ladies, question do you like it when the man goes in for the kill and if he doesn't what are your thoughts and would you see him again?

 

My date in question has agreed to see me again, however she actually txt me and said 'the pressure of the first kiss is killing me"....think I may have left it too late now and scared her off

 

Guys.....if she doesn't sack me off and I do get date 3 what moves do you use to initiate contact and eventually go in for kill? Doesn't seem much opportunity to get a little touchy feely with her

[picaso28]

Is that in the dating manual? Haha

[kassy]

Gah have been there before (as the girl). When you meet her say hi give her a hug don't let go but lean back and say its good to see you again or something and then just go in for the kiss. Not an epic make out session but just a decent kiss. She clearly wants you too.

 

However, if that doesn't feel right then... Anytime just kiss her, there are no perfect moves, she won't care how you do it, she has given you the green light so just make it happen.

 

Good luck, and don't leave the 3rd date without kissing her!

[Andy_K]

It's better to go for a kiss on someone who turns out not to be interested, than miss out on the kiss with someone who is.

 

So the next time the two of you are close, take your chances and go for it. Worst case, she isn't interested, and you get the cheek or she pulls away. It doesn't matter because if she's not into you, then you won't see her again anyway as you'll not continue dating

[AMusing]

 

My date in question has agreed to see me again, however she actually txt me and said 'the pressure of the first kiss is killing me"

 

Your poor date is practically flagging you in for a kiss with that text. Next it'll be air traffic controllers directing you to her lips.

 

Seriously, it sounds like she's pretty interested in you. A text like that was meant to tell you that she assumes there will be a first kiss, and she can't wait for it to happen. So at the start of date three, give her a kiss already! It'll ease the tension and let you have fun on your date, without worrying about finding the "right time" to kiss her for the first time.

 

Out of curiosity, how did you respond to that text?

[pyramid]

Just kiss her! Give her a long hug and just do it. And never wait till the 3rd date again if you're into someone!!! 1st if there is definite spark, otherwise 2nd.

[Brunettie]

You've not lost her. She already said she'd go on another date with you, just make sure you don't leave without that kiss!!

What she said is normal. She didn't get a kiss on the first date, that's ok. But not getting it on the 2nd date .. while you are in fact interested and asking her on a 3rd date is a little nerve wracking and puzzling.

 

Since she said the pressure of the first kiss is killing her, maybe don't wait until the end of the date to do it. Maybe sneak it in sometime in the middle. Like if you're walking someone holding hands, you can stop under a tree and pull her in for one :]

[mcdo]

My date in question has agreed to see me again, however she actually txt me and said 'the pressure of the first kiss is killing me"

Actually, what did you respond to that? I hope it was something along the lines of "OK, will do!"

[Disenchantedly Yours]

I'd be more turned off by you getting drunk on a first date then not getting kissed.

 

I also don't believe in "3 date rule" sex. So maybe I'm just different like that. You have sex when you want to have sex. When BOTH people want to have sex. Not because of a premeditated number. Same goes for kissing. All couples are different.

[sabre80]

Id kiss her as soon as you pick her up or meet her. It would not be very gentlemanly to let her have all that anxiety built up during the 3rd date.

[PogoStick]

Actually, the revised 4th edition Dating Manual suggests anal on the 3rd date, thus allowing her to still claim technical virginity. Vaginal intercourse has been moved to date 5, with a special circumstance clause for date 4 depending on the time since her last relationship.

 

Dude! Too late? She agreed to another date and just sent you a text saying "you better kiss me this time". Do you need the manual printed in braille?

[picaso28]

Your poor date is practically flagging you in for a kiss with that text. Next it'll be air traffic controllers directing you to her lips.

 

Seriously, it sounds like she's pretty interested in you. A text like that was meant to tell you that she assumes there will be a first kiss, and she can't wait for it to happen. So at the start of date three, give her a kiss already! It'll ease the tension and let you have fun on your date, without worrying about finding the "right time" to kiss her for the first time.

 

Out of curiosity, how did you respond to that text?

I basically replied to txt explaining I wanted to kiss her but didn't think she was up for it as we had a little play argument over something stupid....I said let me take you out then dinner at my place and make up for it and she replied that she was well up for it but she didn't reply when I said let me know when she is free.

[AMusing]

I basically replied to txt explaining I wanted to kiss her but didn't think she was up for it as we had a little play argument over something stupid....I said let me take you out then dinner at my place and make up for it and she replied that she was well up for it but she didn't reply when I said let me know when she is free.

 

You two sound disgustingly adorable. Hope she's responded back by now.

[picaso28]

Still no reply from her letting me know when she is free.

 

Gonna give it until next week then text her asking her if she is free next weekend. If not will be moving on. This dating game is new to me and all a learning curve.

 

Thanks for advice people