When to Visit?

[Lovelygal]

Hello everyone,

 

So, I'm trying to figure when to have my boyfriend (he lives in England and I'm from the US) visit. We were flip-flopping between June and October. I'm finally graduating from college, and I felt like June would be best...because he'd be here for 20 days. However, I'm poor....pretty much no money. Then I thought he could visit in October, and I would have some money saved up after finding a job and working for awhile. But then, I won't be able to have that much time off. I'm afraid if I don't see him in June, I may not see him for another year. (The last time he came to visit was October 2012). We will be in my hometown for most of it, but I don't want to bore him.I have talked to him about it, and he said we will figure it out. I just like to have my own money as well.

I would like to go to simple places...but all of it consists of money...not alot,but some. Maybe I'm overreacting.... I guess I just miss him so much. Should I just wait it out? Should I just go for June?

 

Thanks for anyone taking the time to read this

[cerridwen]

Ok.

I know you're concerned about money but meeting in June seems like a better idea.

 

He's here to see you and in June, he's afforded more opportunity to do that.

Take full advantage!

You'll cherish that extra time.

Sure in October you might have more cash, but what's REALLY important is just being together.

 

Not to mention, the flight coming over from the UK is long and a pain.

His getting to stay 20 days versus 14 can really make a difference to his comfort level and wellbeing.

It can take him a few days just to recover from jet lag so...

 

Don't worry too much about having a full agenda of activities.

I understand you don't want to bore him but it will be meaningful just to do simple things like cooking dinner together and watching movies.

 

He's not high maintenance, is he?

Is he someone who always needs to be on the go?

If not, just talking can be fun.

My SO and I can lie in a hammock and laugh until the cows come home.

It's just the togetherness, yeah?

 

But, if you're worried about it, there are cheaper things to do, particularly in the summer when you can take advantage of the outdoors.

 

Also, if this is his first time to America, it can be especially easy to entertain since many things are a novelty.

 

Spend a little time researching what might be happening in your area in June.

See what might be affordable then talk to him.

Gauge his expectations, talk about your concerns, and go from there.

 

Have fun!

Edited April 11, 2013 by cerridwen

[FitChick]

See him in June. The more time you spend together the more "real" the relationship becomes and isn't just a romantic fantasy. You need to discover each others annoying habits and how you deal with day to day problems as they arise. If you got married, would you feel you'd have to entertain him all the time?