Hendrix Posted September 15, 2004 Posted September 15, 2004 Ok i have'nt posted here in a while... But im in a situation... again I had an old thread which is... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?threadid=33161 - dont worry its not to long (sorry about the length of this one) that happened at the start of the year and now were havin a few probs again... recently we both went away on holidays for 2 weeks to different places at the same time (with friends) and since we got back she hasnt been the best I have been the one being really nice really sweet doin absolutly everything and not gettin much love back =/ Now we both were faithfull on holidays im pretty sure but before we left she was nicer and more loving... now I dont hear form her as much and she talks to her friends alot more who came closer too and on Monday (13th) she had her (debs) which is the "prom" to americans and stuff... i went up collected her got chocolot with "i love u" on it and a flowers and presents for her mom and everything was fine... and we had a good night but i hate wen she smokes! but ive jus accepted it now... but she kept goin off and smoking outside... but she used to be gone for ages at a time... i understand it wa sher night and she was talking to people etc... But i was on my own for a while... But everything was fine till we were goin home... we had an arguement because i Q her on where she went for the time and i admit i was acting a bit Imature about it but she was jus as much as bad... (yet im doing all the making up!) But she wudnt talk the way home and i tried talking but she wudnt and wen we got back she said she didnt want to stay with me to and to go home... (i was staying with her that night) but she said she didnt want to stay with me and i wanted to and to sort it out but she said she'd ring the next day (still havnt rang) got a few txt's though (its wed now) and i was talking to her mam and she isnt sure what's goin on either... But in one message i got she said she isnt as happy With me which i duno why cause ive been real nice with her and how can i make her happy if she doesnt talk or see me!? but i have my deb's (prom) on friday and she's going... But shes comin up to see me tomorrow and i might even get the conversation... It's not u it's me.. (which i dont find acceptable in this case) (which happened before... read the old post =/) but how can i be happy if we cant talk before hand its goin to ruin my night i jus hope im over reacting in this case (she says sweet things one minute and she doesnt talk the next) and we both are staring college as of yesterday (different ones) but only 15 min drive away.. but new people and surroundings etc... She might not want to be around with me!? - which i hope isnt true... But anyways My Q... Why do women do this??? I know everyones different but i dont understand how someone could be like this.. I sincerly love her so much it hurts i gave her a poems, flowers, ask her does she want to go out to dinner or movies? be real nice put her first 24/7 but i get this i duno how much more i can handle i feel she doesnt know the pain it causes since it didnt happen to her... and im not goin thru all the hurt again Im v sorry for the long thread But if u can take a few mins to go thru and give some advice id appreciate it Alot... I know im jus another guy with a prob! but jus help if u can... Thx...
Notorious Posted September 17, 2004 Posted September 17, 2004 I'm not a girl, but you need to stop with all the flowers, poems, calling, etc. Just stop all contact. She's obviously confused and you're just torturing yourself. Give it some space.
Author Hendrix Posted September 17, 2004 Author Posted September 17, 2004 yea i know i shud give her space.. and right now im feeling pissed off and not caring... but thru the day i feel sad or annoyed cause she put me thru so much and i forgave her for stuff but somethin small like this and she doesnt speak to me..... That's what annoys me... emotions suck! im sure 2mo ill be sad again! and all but ive to take her out 2mo + she didnt see me again 2day... annoyed me even more! but what can u do....
Naive Posted September 17, 2004 Posted September 17, 2004 It's true maybe you are smothering her. Give her some space.
SnowWhite Posted September 17, 2004 Posted September 17, 2004 I think there is a chance you are smothering her as well. Cards and poems are nice in the beginning but after awhile it probably gives the message that you are more infatuated with her than she probably is with you. When you say you put her first 24/7 I hope you don't mean that you have given up the life you had before she came along. Don't become totally dependent on someone else to make you happy.
Author Hendrix Posted September 20, 2004 Author Posted September 20, 2004 well im posting again... i was jus readin over my old thread too... Jees Its a bitch alright! http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t33161/15-3 -last post of it... but anyways... im really havig enough of this crap... im goin to give it till the end of the week to see whats goin on i know theres a part of me thinkin that u shud jus leave it u still ant to be with her and u are still together.. I know were together but u cant ignore u Boyfriend the person u "love" but I duno... its a pain ill txt her and say i want to see and talk to her - ill do it on thursday... ill prob see her after work on sat... Im afraid after a few dayss she'll break up (again) (then ill be pissed) i doubt its jus me whos havin probs tho... She prob isnt havin the best of times at home... n stuff... i'd like the hear what u think... =/ Thx...
Author Hendrix Posted September 21, 2004 Author Posted September 21, 2004 well happened today! we came together in my house by chance... and things were normal jus a bit quiter... watchin tv and after an hr or so i said... What's up? and well satarted from there and to be honest i dont feel TOO bad as of yet... I think ive come to terms with It's Really not me. It's her loss... I really see it as that as big headed as it may sound... Its hard to find nice people that u like but i was perfect for her... i know i was its just the way she's feeling... She was on depresants... dont worry shes not a weirdo.. but she stopped taking them then things started to get odd... So i told her for me jus to start them again which she will 2mo... even if we dont get back 2gtether... Jus for her sake even if she never sees me again once she is ok that will make me better.... and i know ill miss her an everythin But i dont feel to hurt it was more mutual than painfull... But i think she came out more hurt =/ its hard to explain.. So im not really going to try. jus hope anyone can understand and comment... But i say we will keep in contact.. She realises how much we were great together and she threw it away, so i dunno.... i think shes scared of being alone and deep down i think she wants me.. (same feelings as me) jus that were to young and maybe ina few years if ive had of met her then she'd be so perfect... relationships are odd tihngs... But im a bit of a strange mood.... I duno! well not to sure what to say now... So ill jus head off to sleep, might remember more 2mo to say... night... lol im such a stange mood, maybe its good, maybe ill feel **** 2mo but no more waiting! maybe im happy about that? ah ill shut up.... night...
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