Would you guys give your significant other your credit card to test her loyalty?

[Els]

If you don't trust someone enough that you need to do something like this solely to 'test' them, then you're in for a pretty expensive 'test' IMO.

 

Some couples do share finances, but sharing your credit card info with someone you're still at 'testing' stage with is pretty darned idiotic.

[MidwestUSA]

A better idea, give me your credit card. Momma needs a new pair of shoes (or twelve). Thank you!

[Mme. Chaucer]

I am not going to lie - I didn't expect this from you.

 

So THAT explains all the blindfolded dudes I've been seeing sitting around in the mall ...

[tbf]

It's not a test for loyalty. But it is a test for financial compatibility and impulse control. It's also a test of how a woman might perceive your financial security level based on how you've portrayed yourself.

[dasein]

Didn't read whole thread. No don't give an SO your credit card, that's the very definition of supplicating, doormat behavior.

[headspinning]

What if she maxes out the card just to test your loyalty to HER and not to money? Ever think of that?

[anne1707]

It seems a very untrustworthy way of testing whether you can trust your girlfriend. Nasty, underhand and childish.

[Giraffe1]

I wouldn't want to do that but it's because I've been single for so long I'm not used to sharing my money. It makes me feel a little uneasy.

 

But I'm sure if you are in love and trust her, it should be a non-issue. You don't sound like Scrooge so try out your theory.

[man_in_the_box]

We've just established a shared account which we both have access to. All our incomes are still coming on our original bank account,which we keep for individual purposes, but every month we book a certain amount to the shared account.

[WhoreyBull]

Although we say that someone has to "prove" their loyalty, I don't believe that involves passing tests their partner comes up with.

Those sound a lot like "hoops".

 

I think a relationship should have a standards set by both parties. If they are getting a credit card from me it is because we discussed it and I trust them. Not because I'm trying to see if I do.

[todreaminblue]

I'm probably gonna be totally yelled at for doing this on this forum. Would you give your girlfriend or significant other your credit card in order to develop a sense of trust in your relationship? I'm young so I have plenty of time to pay it off if she totally screws me. I wanted to test her and give her my card which doesn't have a very high balance on it and I never give her money at all. We already trust each other a lot but I wanted to do an ultimate test tonight by giving her my card. Money comes and goes to me but having a person who loves you and trusts you is far more important. What do u guys think?

 

 

i dont want a guy to give me his credit card..i would refuse...that to me doesnt prove trust...it proves he doesnt know me well enough to know i am compulsive....impulsive also and am better not having a credit card in my hot little hand..i dont think havign a guys credit card is necessary fro him to prove anything to me.........my ex used to hold my card for me...... and i would pay the bills by eftpos......i am now still in debt..its manageable...because when he left me for an affair...and i got sick and hosptialized he stopped paying the bills......and took her out instead.my best friend begged em to get it off him adn give it to her so she could pay my bills and look after my girls..so i did ask him for it......he got a little angry actually when i asked for it......she was and still is a true friend of mine...i can never repay her for how she helped me never .....i write her poetry...............i am still recovering financially and learning to manage my own money.....thats been harder............ its been seven years....i trusted him....i think putting a monetary value to trust is a mistake..i dont need a credit card to have for a guy to prove he loves me...deb

[MercuryMorrison1]

I'm probably gonna be totally yelled at for doing this on this forum. Would you give your girlfriend or significant other your credit card in order to develop a sense of trust in your relationship? I'm young so I have plenty of time to pay it off if she totally screws me. I wanted to test her and give her my card which doesn't have a very high balance on it and I never give her money at all. We already trust each other a lot but I wanted to do an ultimate test tonight by giving her my card. Money comes and goes to me but having a person who loves you and trusts you is far more important. What do u guys think?

 

Find a better way to test her reliability...Jesus dude, You're right, money comes and go's for anyone who works for it...But why would waste the effort of working for money on something like this?

 

What if she screws you over? Then you will be in debt AND without a girlfriend, as opposed to just being without a girlfriend.

[sooniechan]

Wtf kind of test is that? Horrible. I'm sure you can find a better "test" if you feel the need to test her.