How would you interpret her behavior?

[Tressugar]

I didn't know where to exactly post this, but here it goes.

 

 

Husband ex wife interferes with court ordered child visitations to the point of her trying to obtain a RO for her and their child together.

 

The judge dropped their son from the RO, but kept ex wife on as a TRO. She failed to return to the permanent RO hearing because she informed the court she felt she doesn't need a permanent RO.

 

With that said, how do you interpret someone who is afraid for their life of another person to that person calling, following and texting the very person she asked the court to protect her from?

 

I question her motives and don't seem to get a direct answer. Just a lot of expletives hurled my direction.

 

In the phone calls and text messages, she is verbally insulting and abusive. She says that my husband is a dead beat dad and he'll never see their child. Now we have resorted to not taking her calls or responding to her text messages. We will be using these in court. She has a FB page where she vents, rants and rage primarily about me (the whore) and her wusband. She goes as far to write my name on her page and lied saying that I went to her house. In fact, she was the one who followed me and asked me if I knew where her HUSBAND was (she divorced him three times-they were married once!) Go figure! I got a permanent RO on her and she seemed to cool her jets with me for now. Although with my husband she still spews her venom and defy court orders which puts a strain on our marriage.

 

What response is she seeking with all these harassing phone calls and text messages to my husband?

[tojaz]

I didn't know where to exactly post this, but here it goes.

 

 

Husband ex wife interferes with court ordered child visitations to the point of her trying to obtain a RO for her and their child together.

 

The judge dropped their son from the RO, but kept ex wife on as a TRO. She failed to return to the permanent RO hearing because she informed the court she felt she doesn't need a permanent RO.

 

With that said, how do you interpret someone who is afraid for their life of another person to that person calling, following and texting the very person she asked the court to protect her from?

 

I question her motives and don't seem to get a direct answer. Just a lot of expletives hurled my direction.

 

In the phone calls and text messages, she is verbally insulting and abusive. She says that my husband is a dead beat dad and he'll never see their child. Now we have resorted to not taking her calls or responding to her text messages. We will be using these in court. She has a FB page where she vents, rants and rage primarily about me (the whore) and her wusband. She goes as far to write my name on her page and lied saying that I went to her house. In fact, she was the one who followed me and asked me if I knew where her HUSBAND was (she divorced him three times-they were married once!) Go figure! I got a permanent RO on her and she seemed to cool her jets with me for now. Although with my husband she still spews her venom and defy court orders which puts a strain on our marriage.

 

What response is she seeking with all these harassing phone calls and text messages to my husband?

 

Fielding a guess based only on what you have written here, I would say that she defines herself by the adversarial relationship between her and your husband and is looking for ways to continue to be a thorn in his side, lest she find herself alone and without purpose.

 

If thats the case, the harder you push back, the more she gets out of it, like issuing a challenge.

 

TOJAZ

[Tressugar]

Hmmm...interesting!

 

Thank you for responding!

[CC12]

What response is she seeking with all these harassing phone calls and text messages to my husband?

 

Any response at all, probably. Or she wants to put a strain on your relationship, and hey, it's working because you guys are letting her get to you.

 

I get the impression that you and your husband may have contributed to the drama at least a little bit. For example, you apparently asked her what her motives were. You engaged the crazy. As you've seen, that's not going to work. And then you say you "resorted" to not taking her calls and ignoring her text messages. You guys should have never responded to them in the first place.

 

Anyway, I think one of your problems is that you care too much about what she does. I understand it's hard to deal with people like that, and it sucks that someone spreads lies about you and all, but you have to stop caring. Don't read her Facebook rants, don't listen to people who tell you about what she does, don't post about her on forums. She shouldn't even be on your radar. Tune her out.

 

You don't need to be dealing with her. Leave it up to your husband. Your involvement probably makes things worse, to be honest. So try removing yourself from that situation. But encourage your husband to also tune her out and to only deal with her through a lawyer or mediator, or whatever.

[Tressugar]

Thank you for your insight. I will take your advice.