Why are men hammered for wanting to date women they're attracted to?

[Anela]

But if it's they who're doing the cringing just at the thought of getting close to you … well then! They're shallow!

 

Right?

 

So YOU are a good example of the type of guy who gets hammered.

 

Yes! Exactly.

[Mme. Chaucer]

This thread isn't about the male whiners. There have been plenty of threads and countless posts scattered throughout unrelated threads where their ridiculousness has been lambasted. Go post in those.

 

Hahahaha! Is this thread about what you think is appropriate to post, though?

 

This seems to be your speciality around here!

 

Anyway, dear fake moderator, the phenomenon of the moaning men is very pertinent here in THIS thread, for obvious reasons.

[ltjg45]

We really do need to have a gender war. It will be glorious.

 

When it does, I will be joining the women' side.

[TheBigQuestion]

As far as I know, you aren't a moderator, so mind your own business as to where I post.

 

As I stated, I only have a problem with the guys who insist that *I* should settle, when they're holding out for their dream girl. The only time I've lambasted guys here for those preferences have been when I've been told that I should settle, that I waited too long and should have taken advantage of my market value when I was younger.

 

I don't see men being hammered over wanting to date women they're attracted to, that's my issue! I don't see anyone bugging you over your being involved with a woman that you're attracted to (you have a girlfriend, right?).

 

Strictly speaking, discussions regarding bitter guys who are critical of women's preferences (i.e. for height, money, broad shoulders, whatever) are off-topic. Your post essentially boils down to a proclamation that "men do it too" (or its equivalent, "women do it too") which, while true, is off-topic and usually the way contentious gender war threads are started.

 

There are a handful of female posters who show plenty of disdain for the so-called shallowness of men, and even go as far as accusing men who post here of having unrealistic expectations despite their insistence that they have flexible standards of physical attraction. They insert it into nearly every thread, regardless of whether its topical, and usually preface their nonsense with phrases like "there have been actual studies done on this, this, and that," generally on stuff that supposedly proves that men have wildly unrealistic expectations of the women they want to date. I never said it was a majority view, but it's a sizable, vocal minority, and I made that abundantly clear in my very first post in this thread, which you quoted.

 

And yes, I do have a girlfriend. Knowing her, if she read this board, she'd find the posters to whom I refer as ridiculous as I do, because she has self-esteem and a brain.

[chex]

Anyway, dear fake moderator, the phenomenon of the moaning men is very pertinent here in THIS thread, for obvious reasons.

 

Because they're getting hammered so hard? Their moans of pleasure mixed with pain can be heard from all over the forum, their screams of "Oh, please, more!" "I've been a bad boy, punish meeee"

[William]

Why are men hammered for wanting to date women they're attracted to?.....

 

 

and..... why are moderators being mentioned in this thread?

[MrNate 2.0]

Why are men hammered for wanting to date women they're attracted to?.....

 

 

and..... why are moderators being mentioned in this thread?

 

All the more reason for you to be on standby it seems.

[Anela]

Strictly speaking, discussions regarding bitter guys who are critical of women's preferences (i.e. for height, money, broad shoulders, whatever) are off-topic. Your post essentially boils down to a proclamation that "men do it too" (or its equivalent, "women do it too") which, while true, is off-topic and usually the way contentious gender war threads are started.

 

There are a handful of female posters who show plenty of disdain for the so-called shallowness of men, and even go as far as accusing men who post here of having unrealistic expectations despite their insistence that they have flexible standards of physical attraction. They insert it into nearly every thread, regardless of whether its topical, and usually preface their nonsense with phrases like "there have been actual studies done on this, this, and that," generally on stuff that supposedly proves that men have wildly unrealistic expectations of the women they want to date. I never said it was a majority view, but it's a sizable, vocal minority, and I made that abundantly clear in my very first post in this thread, which you quoted.

 

And yes, I do have a girlfriend. Knowing her, if she read this board, she'd find the posters to whom I refer as ridiculous as I do, because she has self-esteem and a brain.

 

No: I stated that the men who are hammered are those I already mentioned.

 

My original response was in reference to those men, that they should look to their reasons for hammering women and they might find the answer to their question. As far as I can tell, that's pretty reasonable. It boils down to insecurity.

 

I also haven't personally attacked someone here, as you just tried to with me and others, since I'm most likely one of the women you're referring to.

Edited April 11, 2013 by Anela

[TheBigQuestion]

I also haven't personally attacked someone here, as you just tried to with me and others, since I'm most likely one of the women you're referring to.

 

While you do have a rather irritating tendency to attempt to make most of the threads you participate in about your own struggles and pain in some way or another, you don't really do any of the things that I criticize that vocal minority of doing.