Sheilalou008 Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 I know I sure the hell am. I was dumped back in Jan and have bounced back in stride. I can do what I want, go where I want, see who I want and nobody can argue or fight me on it. I have read some other threads and it inspired me to start this one. I am Sheila, a 37 year old single mom. I live in NYS and am going to be starting school next month for Phlebotomy. I am excited to start a new chapter in my life. 12
youngnlove89 Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 I know I sure the hell am. I was dumped back in Jan and have bounced back in stride. I can do what I want, go where I want, see who I want and nobody can argue or fight me on it. I have read some other threads and it inspired me to start this one. I am Sheila, a 37 year old single mom. I live in NYS and am going to be starting school next month for Phlebotomy. I am excited to start a new chapter in my life. You go girl!! :-) 1
SmileFace Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 I know I sure the hell am. I was dumped back in Jan and have bounced back in stride. I can do what I want, go where I want, see who I want and nobody can argue or fight me on it. I have read some other threads and it inspired me to start this one. I am Sheila, a 37 year old single mom. I live in NYS and am going to be starting school next month for Phlebotomy. I am excited to start a new chapter in my life. You should really be able to some sort of the same in a relationship. However like you I enjoy being single. It gives me time just to be with me and with friends and family.
Author Sheilalou008 Posted April 10, 2013 Author Posted April 10, 2013 You go girl!! :-) Thanks. I am trying my best. My journey has not been easy and I know I will hit more bumps in my road but I am as strong as I can be.
Author Sheilalou008 Posted April 10, 2013 Author Posted April 10, 2013 You should really be able to some sort of the same in a relationship. However like you I enjoy being single. It gives me time just to be with me and with friends and family. Of course, I was able to do pretty much anything I wanted when I was with my ex. Now I just don't have to always let someone know the moves I am making. I can just get up and go.
Treasa Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 Hi Sheila! I work at a blood center. Good for you! I agree with you. I love being single. I love not answering my phone or answering to anyone on the weekends and evenings, I love having my house however I want it (thankfully the default is clean), I love that I can go to the gym in the middle of the night and not do a single thing about it except just get in my car. I love that I'm strong enough and self-reliant enough that I don't need anyone else. I love knowing that if I need help, people are always a phone call away, but thankfully I generally don't need help. I love that I'm not posting anywhere or thinking about how heart-broken I am. 3
MoreThanThat Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 LOVE seeing an empowering thread like this! 2
Author Sheilalou008 Posted April 10, 2013 Author Posted April 10, 2013 Hi Sheila! I work at a blood center. Good for you! I agree with you. I love being single. I love not answering my phone or answering to anyone on the weekends and evenings, I love having my house however I want it (thankfully the default is clean), I love that I can go to the gym in the middle of the night and not do a single thing about it except just get in my car. I love that I'm strong enough and self-reliant enough that I don't need anyone else. I love knowing that if I need help, people are always a phone call away, but thankfully I generally don't need help. I love that I'm not posting anywhere or thinking about how heart-broken I am. I am very excited about school. It has been a long time coming. It is amazing to be able to know that you don't have to depend on anyone. I have my own apt, which is always clean and I don't have to share with anyone. I always have my family and good friends if I need to talk or vent. Like right now, I am sitting on my couch, having a smoke and a cup of coffee and not having to worry about anything besides dinner and my daughter. I will have my parents over and make an amazing meal. It is always quiet here all the time. I first came to LS in the break up forum and was pretty hurt about what happened to me. I broke that cycle and started to enjoy my life without a man. At some point would I like another relationship, of course but I am not going to die without one. Right now I am totally happy with the way my life is.
Author Sheilalou008 Posted April 10, 2013 Author Posted April 10, 2013 If you were happy then you wouldn't need to announce it to strangers. Point taken. Like I said, I was inspired by another poster who thinks she will never be happy unless she is with a man. Just a random thought and figured being positive isn't a bad thing. 4
Author Sheilalou008 Posted April 10, 2013 Author Posted April 10, 2013 LOVE seeing an empowering thread like this! Thank you. It seems as though I have irritated a poster on here by announcing being happy to a bunch of internet strangers.
MoreThanThat Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 Thank you. It seems as though I have irritated a poster on here by announcing being happy to a bunch of internet strangers. Having seen the couple other threads, I entirely get why you did it. Especially for the sake of trying to encourage/support younger women in that personal happiness should not be tied to a man/relationship. 6
Author Sheilalou008 Posted April 10, 2013 Author Posted April 10, 2013 Having seen the couple other threads, I entirely get why you did it. Especially for the sake of trying to encourage/support younger women in that personal happiness should not be tied to a man/relationship. Relationships can be great but it is not the end all be all of life. I see nothing wrong with being content with ones life and loving yourself. How can you expect to have a decent relationship without those things? Some people are just bitter. 3
youngnlove89 Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 Well then since you are happy and you know it and you really want to show it clap your hands. haha as if her name weren't enough, disinterested, she's what you call a negative nancy!! ;p 4
mesmerized Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 The best thing about being single is you can flirt with as many men as you want and not feel guilty. No jealousy or insecurity (of your own or his) to deal with. I do miss loving someone though but what can you do! 1
Author Sheilalou008 Posted April 10, 2013 Author Posted April 10, 2013 haha as if her name weren't enough, disinterested, she's what you call a negative nancy!! ;p Isn't this why these forums exist? I mean, we are all strangers. I guess posting makes me some awful person. Oh well. Can't please everyone. 2
ltjg45 Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 I'm not in a rush to get into a relationship. It is as clear as day that my value as a male is zero, considering that I can't get a entry-level job to save my life. So I'm not going to waste a female's time thinking I'm at least worth dating when I can't afford a $15 night out at a fast-food restaurant.
Author Sheilalou008 Posted April 10, 2013 Author Posted April 10, 2013 The best thing about being single is you can flirt with as many men as you want and not feel guilty. No jealousy or insecurity (of your own or his) to deal with. I do miss loving someone though but what can you do! Of course there are things I miss and some that I don't. Loving someone is a great feeling but I do not depend on it to live and breathe.
Author Sheilalou008 Posted April 10, 2013 Author Posted April 10, 2013 Isn't that the point of these threads? Coping with bitterness and it not working for you. Not working for me?
Author Sheilalou008 Posted April 10, 2013 Author Posted April 10, 2013 It is in the tone of the original post. Uh, ok. Please, explain.
Treasa Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 If you were happy then you wouldn't need to announce it to strangers. So people shouldn't share information? That's like saying I know Excel but I'm not going to teach it to anyone else. If someone else wants to know about it, I'm going to show them how to use it. I know what posts the OP is referring to, and I can't say I blame her. Why does it bother you so much that someone is happy? Wait, I think I know the answer. 2
Author Sheilalou008 Posted April 10, 2013 Author Posted April 10, 2013 I guess I am totally confused how I am coming off bitter by being ok with being single.
Treasa Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 Uh, ok. Please, explain. ...Happy? Content with herself? You can't read tone from text. However, depending on your personality, you can choose to interpret it in the best way possible, or the worst way possible, or somewhere in between. But that says more about you than it does the person sending the message. 1
Author Sheilalou008 Posted April 10, 2013 Author Posted April 10, 2013 So people shouldn't share information? That's like saying I know Excel but I'm not going to teach it to anyone else. If someone else wants to know about it, I'm going to show them how to use it. I know what posts the OP is referring to, and I can't say I blame her. Why does it bother you so much that someone is happy? Wait, I think I know the answer. I am just wondering why some have to piss all over something positive. I guess my original post reeks of bitterness...
Treasa Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 I am just wondering why some have to piss all over something positive. I guess my original post reeks of bitterness... I think unhappy people who feel stuck don't like seeing other people who are happy and strong enough to do for themselves.
Author Sheilalou008 Posted April 10, 2013 Author Posted April 10, 2013 ...Happy? Content with herself? You can't read tone from text. However, depending on your personality, you can choose to interpret it in the best way possible, or the worst way possible, or somewhere in between. But that says more about you than it does the person sending the message. I couldn't agree more with the above. Maybe she is in a bad mood and decided I was a good target to try and get under my skin? 1
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