NotCamelot Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 Now that my W and I are 11 months past d-day. I find that I am doing much better if I spend less time here on LS. I worry less, think about the past less, and, just basically, hurt a LOT less. Maybe this will change as more time goes by. But for now, I think it's best for me to spend less time here. She has proven, without question, her love for me many, many times over and over since last April-May. I still check all the routine things. I am still ever watchful and guarded. I can't completely pull down the curtain yet. I can't say that I will every trust as I did before. I hope that I can. I have made it to the point where I can leave the house alone and not immediately suspect that she will contact him. It does cross my mind. But then my phone rings and she is telling me she misses me already and I have only been gone 5 minutes. I still have my bad days caused only by things in my head. I wish those would go away. I guess at some point they will be just a distant faded memory. Oh how I wish for that. In the meantime, I think I should continue to spend less time here. I am still going to check in......mainly to see if I can help others, and lend some comforting words or guidance if I can. 6
Realist3 Posted April 11, 2013 Posted April 11, 2013 I have often wondered whether some BS's are doing themselves more harm than good by read/posting here after their initial venting of their issue. We all read posts about triggers that pop up from different posters as the read and respond to posts. I think a LS vacation is a good thing. Even though I'm on the other side of the equation it also found it good to get a break.
BetrayedH Posted April 11, 2013 Posted April 11, 2013 Sounds wise to me. You're happy with your reconciliation and so, why impede it? I think you've learned plenty enough about what to look for and how to handle it. Live a happy life, NC. Feel free to come back and share a positive reconciliation story from time to time.
Spark1111 Posted April 11, 2013 Posted April 11, 2013 We have all done it and it is a good thing to do. You must enjoy the positives in re-building.
Confused48 Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 I took a break myself. I did not intend to. I just felt good enough with my WS and naturally lost interest here. But then, with no reason to feel different about the WS, I started to want to see what was going on here. I started reading again. I started thinking about what I read. I realized that I was allowing myself to bury things that should come to light. I'm not saying this is true for you or anyone else. But taking a break was good for me to breath in some calm relaxing thoughts. To just feel like i could be in an R with my WS again with no worries. No troubling thoughts about the past. But then back to reality. My WS cheated and lied and is maybe sorry but I'm not sure. Back to seeing what others are going through on this same path. Take a break if you need to. Take a break if it helps. Come back if and when that is right too.
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