flybonzai Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 I'm a new user to this forum and I'm hoping to get a little advice on my current situation. I'm 26 now, and while up to this point I've always been happy being single, or at least having infrequent relationships, I'm getting to a point now where I want nothing more than to be able to date consistently, and find relationships that can be a little more serious. About 5 months ago I got out of a couple month fling with an 18 year old, and it was everything that I don't want in a relationship, as in shallow, immature, and almost purely physical. Now, I've committed to myself that I am going to start making the effort I've never made, going up to girls I don't know and talking to them, getting their numbers. Become involved in social activities with other singles in my church and community. I'm a good looking guy, I go to the gym regularly and am fit and muscular, I dress well, usually smell good, etc... I'm a couple semesters from graduating with my business administration degree, and I am a talented singer-songwriter. I don't mention any of these things pridefully, because I am more than aware of how many shortcomings I have. But I feel like these are qualities that would make me "a catch" to some people. Here is the problem I continually run into though. I was out playing pool with friends last Saturday, was getting flirty signs from one of the girls working behind the counter, went up and talked to her and got her number. She said she would "love" to do something. I was pretty stoked, but after texting her so she had my number as well that night, waited until today (Tuesday) to ask her out on a date. She took forever to respond, and said she was out of town this weekend, without giving any kind of alternate time when she would be available. In my experience, this is an easy way for a girl to blow you off. Now I am only using this experience as an example, this happens to me a lot. I score the number, or feel like the initial appeal is there, then she flakes, backs out, whatever, whatever. I feel like there must be some key factor I'm missing, some female code that I'm not privy too. My question to the forums is what can I work on to have better success at more meaningful relationships? Sorry for the long post, and thanks in advance! flybonzai
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