I broke NC because of ASGOODASITGETS post. Ladies, opinions please

[bikerider]

The poem below was in a post I read and felt compelled to send it to my exgirl. She let me go about 7 weeks ago and we had remained in contact thru email and a visit last Tuesday in which we both cried and said e loved each other. She said if it's ment to happen it will but the next day she sounded more like she was nicely telling me that my hurt will get easier as time goes by. Well that was when I decided NC was best and held out until I read this poem this morning. It had been 7 days with NC. Below is the poem and her reply is just below the poem. Please, if you have any insight let me hear it. Thanks.

Letting Go

 

To Let go does not mean to stop caring...

...it means I can't do it for someone else.

To Let go is not to cut myself off...

...it is the realization I can't control another.

To Let go is not to enable...

...but to allow learning from natural consequences.

To Let go is to admit powerlessness...

...which means the outcome is not in my hands.

To Let go is not to try to change or blame another...

...it's to make the most of myself.

To Let go is not to care for, but to care about.

To Let go is not to fix, but to be supportive.

To Let go is not to judge...

...but to allow another to be a human being.

To Let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes...

...but to allow others to affect their destinies.

To Let go is not to be protective...

...it's to permit another to face reality.

To Let go is not to deny, but to accept.

To Let go is not to nag, scold, or argue...

...but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.

To Let go is not to adjust everything to my desires...

...but to take each day as it comes, and cherish myself in it.

To Let go is not to criticize and regulate anybody...

...but to try to become what I dream I can be.

To Let go is not to regret the past...

...but to grow and live for the future.

To Let go is to fear less, and love more.

~Author Unknown

 

 

Thank you so much. It is beautiful and it's exactly how I feel - that's incredible. I sent you a card in the mail today you should receive it tomorrow and it's not meant to hurt you or prolong the process of our separation but I had to send it because everyday we live life - you can't hold back how you feel because one day you are going to wish you had of said something or done something that you didn't and I never want to live life that way. I always want that special person to know how I felt or feel inside and never hold back. So I hope it doesn't cause a set back for you that is not my intention at all but just to share w/you my feelings as we try to move on. I don't know what either of our future holds all I know is this separation is hard for me too and even when you see me out and about - I'm going thru the motions but I'm still hurting because things didn't work out.

 

Thanks again so much for sharing this w/me - it really means alot Tony. (I will keep this forever as I will all the other things you have shared with me)

 

Love you too and Always,

Linda

[AsGoodAsItGets01]

Glad it helped...also some people think no contact should mean to end things forever...some of us do not want to do that but are doing the whole no contact thing to see what happens with time!

 

 

chris

 

 

http://www.christopheradamknight.cjb.net

[LexiB]

Why do people break up when they still love each other??? I mean, I know there are some concrete reasons but fro the most part, I just dont get it...

[bikerider]

Originally posted by LexiB

Why do people break up when they still love each other??? I mean, I know there are some concrete reasons but fro the most part, I just dont get it...

 

I don't get it either. The only thing I can figure out is you can love someoneone for who they are but maybe there is a void that someone else they know may provide. Maybe money...That was one of her reasons. She told me on the last day that she likes nice things and that she wasn't ready to sit at home and watch videos. I'm just going to reply to CARD and tell her that I know we still love each other and be as cool, nice as I can so one day she will regret letting me go. NC starts right afterwards.

It will be a short and sweet.