Necris Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 I have a crush on a neighbor of mine, she's a natural beauty, easy to talk to, seems laid back and easy going and I believe single though I'm not completely sure, but I'm not sure how to act in this situation. Should I try to ask her out? I don't know. I've talked to her a few times but I probably seem like the weird guy since I do probably act a little weird also if we do see each other she's never the one to initiate conversation though then again with women this is quite normal. Anyway any tips on what I should do next time I see her?
hannah11 Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 Ask her if she wants to get together some time. Go out for dinner or drinks or something. Next time you talk to her, just be like "we should get together sometime..." see what she says. 1
Author Necris Posted April 10, 2013 Author Posted April 10, 2013 Ask her if she wants to get together some time. Go out for dinner or drinks or something. Next time you talk to her, just be like "we should get together sometime..." see what she says. I guess, that's a good idea can't think of anything else. What would be a smooth, not awkward, relaxed way of going about asking for her number and going out?
todreaminblue Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 I guess, that's a good idea can't think of anything else. What would be a smooth, not awkward, relaxed way of going about asking for her number and going out? what hannah said is perfectly laid back necris, saying we should get together sometime leaves it open for her to say ok that sounds cool if she is keen she might say when were you thinking of....best wishes....deb
Author Necris Posted April 10, 2013 Author Posted April 10, 2013 what hannah said is perfectly laid back necris, saying we should get together sometime leaves it open for her to say ok that sounds cool if she is keen she might say when were you thinking of....best wishes....deb For some reason I just feel weird about it, but hey doing nothing isn't going to help. Anyone else have any more advice?
Author Necris Posted April 10, 2013 Author Posted April 10, 2013 When I see her she's usually with a female friend of hers should I still try to ask her out if I see her with her friend?
salparadise Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 When I see her she's usually with a female friend of hers should I still try to ask her out if I see her with her friend? I don't think I'd do that in front of her friend. I'd also try and figure out if she's indeed single. I was going to suggest that you ask her to accompany you to some event that people don't usually attend solo so that it doesn't necessarily imply that you're dating... and then figure out from there if she's available and interested. But perhaps the advice from the ladies is more on target.
Treasa Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 I have a crush on a neighbor of mine, she's a natural beauty, easy to talk to, seems laid back and easy going and I believe single though I'm not completely sure, but I'm not sure how to act in this situation. Should I try to ask her out? I don't know. I've talked to her a few times but I probably seem like the weird guy since I do probably act a little weird also if we do see each other she's never the one to initiate conversation though then again with women this is quite normal. Anyway any tips on what I should do next time I see her? I initiate contact/conversation all the time, and I'm a woman. Also, maybe her friend is more than a friend? I'd say try to get to know her first. Just talk to her. Maybe you could have a barbecue and invite nearby neighbors. Or, you know, you could ask her out.
Author Necris Posted April 10, 2013 Author Posted April 10, 2013 I don't think I'd do that in front of her friend. I'd also try and figure out if she's indeed single. I was going to suggest that you ask her to accompany you to some event that people don't usually attend solo so that it doesn't necessarily imply that you're dating... and then figure out from there if she's available and interested. But perhaps the advice from the ladies is more on target. Yeah that would be pretty awkward unfortunately her friend is almost always around, and walking up to her door and asking her out that way just seems silly and unnatural. As for finding out if she's indeed single I suppose there is always facebook or just flat out asking. Wish I knew of any events around town that isn't just going to dinner or seeing a movie.
ChatroomHero Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 Yeah that would be pretty awkward unfortunately her friend is almost always around, and walking up to her door and asking her out that way just seems silly and unnatural. As for finding out if she's indeed single I suppose there is always facebook or just flat out asking. Wish I knew of any events around town that isn't just going to dinner or seeing a movie. You could always say you are having a party at your place on some day and invite her to come. If she says yes, just set up a party. Worst case scenario she doesn't show and you get to have a party.
hannah11 Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 No asking in front of the friend is perfect. If she is with her friend next time then grab a few of your friends to 'go hang out' and when you see her and her friend tell a joke, make them laugh, then be like 'hey we are headed *insert location* you guys wanna join us?' of if it is like a week before the event say something like 'a couple of friends and I are going *insert location* you guys should come, it would be fun' inviting her friend helps because then she doesn't have to go alone and girls usually feel more confident if they have a friend with them. Also don't feel awkward about it, it will be totally fine! If you start hanging out with her in groups of friends and her friend hits it off with your group of friends then you have mutual friends and really helps the whole relationship process.
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