l39jet Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 Hi All, I have been through a painful divorce and over the past couple of years have dated some trying to figure out what's right for me in a relationship. I am now struggling with myself and wondering what to do. I was in a relationship with a wonderful lady that is so very down to earth, and funny. I just loved hanging out with her. She is beautiful to me and is very bohemian in her style. My kids also thought she was nice and a very fun/funny lady. We seemed to have a lot of common interests. The only issue I had was that we were mostly just mediocre from an intimacy point of view and that was something that was challenging in my marriage the last couple of years and I have desired in my next relationship. The second lady that I have more recently dated is quite opposite of the first in many ways. She is beautiful/sexy and a very classy dresser. She and I have had the sparks I have craved from an intimacy point of view and we enjoy chatting over a glass of wine. But there is no fun.. no "I wanna just hang out and be with you" feelings on my part. She doesn't like some of the music I like, the fact that I fly airplanes and ride motorcycles is not good for her. She is a huge health nut, while I try to be healthy, I don't go overboard. We just seem to not click as much outside of the intimacy and other minor areas of our relationship. That said, she is totally in love with me and willing to let me be and enjoy my hobbies, music, etc ( just without her ) and is incredibly giving to my children and me. But my girls do not like her. They feel she is not as real or as fun as the other lady I dated. My dilemma.... I wish I had the intimacy of the second lady combined with the fun and just hang out, common interest of the first lady. I am just confused as to which traits in the relationships with the two lady's is a better foundation for a long lasting relationship. Any thoughts would be so appreciated!!! Thanks, L39jet
apple OR orange Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 compairing the past with current women is always a bad idea
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