OddFuture Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 (Just to state this before you read, i have had a casual relationship with another guy since my ex, and im not putting my life on the hold) Me and my ex boyfriend broke up just over a year ago, the reason we broke up was because things were becoming strained in our relationship. He started university and his step father was ill and i was still in college. We got on great, had a loving relationship and there was no real reason to break up other than him not being able to handle the stress of university and his step dads illness. Fast forward to today, alot has happened in between then. 3 months after we broke up he started dating another girl on rebound, we continued talking even though his girlfriend at the time didn't want him to contact me, he did. We would spend hours on Skype and he confessed the only reason he was with her was because she was his best friends sister and he got pressured into that situation. It was obvious from the amount we were talking/the things we were talking about that he had some sort of emotion towards me. Anyway he broke up with her 7 months ago. I got accepted into the same university as him (we met through a mutual course at college and the university is good for what we study) and we started meeting up twice a week where we would have casual sex. This went out from October until February this year. He mentioned both sober and drunk that he would 'give us' another go after university saying he made a mistake in leaving me, that he was messed up at the time. Hes recently started dating another girl now, and i'll be honest, i am a bit pissed considering hes said those things to me but hes pretty much told me hes not serious about her and shes just a person to pass time with over summer since he doesn't have friends where he lives and she happens to live in the same area. I know that's a horrible thing to be doing and i don't understand why he is.. But anyway hes still speaking to me everyday, just like before. I told him not to risk his relationship with her by talking to me but he said he doesn't care and continues doing so anyway. He does speak to me occasionally about her, but mainly we just talk about normal things, and often about the past between us (on a 'remember when' basis) I guess my question is.. im i just a person to pass time in his eyes? does he see me as a friend to talk too or im i somebody he wants to keep close for a potential relationship for the future?
Addison312 Posted April 11, 2013 Posted April 11, 2013 You're his backup while he f***s other females. You're his doormat waiting in the wings. He doesn't want to be with you - he's playing you! If you have any self-respect, you'd ignore him from here on out.
swiftly333 Posted April 13, 2013 Posted April 13, 2013 I agree, it sounds like he's really playing with you. If he wanted to be with you he would be with you and not other girls. Also, consider that he goes against his current girlfriends wishes and has a relationship with you. this is emotional cheating, and as Dr Phil says "if he does it with you he'll do it to you" You are making excuses for him or at the very least, falling for his lame ass excuses about why he can't be with you. He was too stressed to have a relationship with you, but not too stressed to have a relationship with someone else. He doesn't have time to be in a relationship with you now while he's in school, but has time to see you and have sex with you 2x a week.. uhhh... what? And he was 'pressured' into having a relationship? Please! He has free will. And this summer girlfriend... he admitted to you that he's just USING her. Just like he's USING YOU and probably every other girl hes been with... I'm sorry, but are you hearing this? this is NOT GOOD! You don't really want this.... I think if you did eventually have a relationship he wouldn't respect you. He wouldn't respect you just like he didn't respect any of his other girlfriends. And he wouldn't respect you because you never taught him to respect you by going along with whatever he wants and not standing up for your own worth or calling him on his BS. Sorry to be blunt, but I think that if in time you guys did end up together, you'd just end up being hurt. I think you need to let go of this guy. But alas, much easier said then done. Best of luck.
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