The final step

[Marine0311]

So I have been no contact almost a month now, would have been two months but we saw each other a few weeks ago and ended up hanging out. I feel as if no contact is not enough because as of now I still feel I want her back when in reality I know she is with new dudes and I need to move on. I am taking the final steps and burning all of the letters she wrote me while I was in Afghanistan along with any pictures of us. I am skeptical because these are irreplaceable, but if i finally get rid of them, my hope of her coming back to me will go with those. Does anyone have any advice on this, should I get rid of them? Also her birthday is this week, Im not going to wish her a happy birthday.

[Am4Real]

For now, pack them up and put them in an envelope or box and tuck them away where you are not likely to go, like a backroom closet or something.

 

You can toss them away at a later time if the need be.

[Damaged23]

I agree, for now put them away, you can even tell a friend to hold them for you, if you feel you may be tempted to look at theem at some point.

[OwlSoul]

Does anyone have any advice on this, should I get rid of them?

Only you know, since noone here knows what you are feeling seeing them. The only answer you'll get is other's experience, which is not necessarily true for you.

[SalientPoint]

I generally just do a purge because I've found that is personally makes me feel better, cause like you said, it means it's really over. If you think you have enough self control to put them in a closet somewhere then go for it, but I always feel a sense of relief after I get rid of stuff like that. This time will be hard enough emotionally without physical reminders around.

[TheFriend]

I tried the closet thing and wound up looking at them :/ i gave it all to my parents and they hid it from me at their house. I have no clue where the hell the stuff is. It felt better not to have anything left and definitely aided in my moving on process.