Question about a shy boy

[roxy_silver16]

I am new to the dating game after 2 years in a very, very, bad relationship that ended violently. It's been two months almost since my break up and I have had my "party girl" time as I like to call it. I went to the bars, partied, went out with friends, met 3 different guys and dated them casually, made alot of new friends and started my life over again. But I have huge relationship issues.

 

I met this guy a month or so agao through a mutual friend. He was actually persuing my friend, but she only had friendly feelings for him. So we hung out in a big group setting, chatting casually about 4 times. Last week Thursday I saw him at a bar and he approached me. He asked to buy me a drink so I went to the bar and talked with him for an hour or so. He asked for my # and I gave it to him. He ended up bar hopping with my group. He was flirty in a cute way. Well the next night after I got off work I was hanging out with friends and he called. He came over and we hung out all night. We went to a party for a while then came back to my house and we layed in bed, cuddled, watched tv and talked all night long. There was no kissing or anything, just cuddling.

 

The very next day I went out of town for the day but came back late at night because my roomates were having a party. He was there, came up to me right away, chatted, and a group of us left to go to the bars. We danced, held hands, he put his arm around me, called me "hun", bought me drinks, but no kissing. My friend and I went back to his house and we played pool until 4 am, then we went to bed. Well, we kissed for the first time and it felt so right, one thing led to another and because of my advances we had sex. It was very good, and he was really affectionate and cute about it. He held me and made me feel really good.

 

Monday he called me after work and asked me to go to a friends house with him, I went over there and he was flirty again, but he was drinking. We held hands, sat on each others laps, ect. Then we went back to my house and ended up having sex again. Last night he came over just for an hour or so. We were both completely sober and we sat next to each other and talked. No kissing, or cuddling or hand holding. He asked me to call him when I got off work tonight.

 

My friends say he is not a player and say that they think he likes me. I have been played so many times that I am hesitant to get my hopes up that this guy likes me. I really really enjoy our time together, we have alot in common, I am 21 he is 23, in college, very cute, sensitive, sweet, caring, and seems very genuine. I get butterfly's in my stomach and the nervousness of a new guy and everything. I really like him.

 

I guess I am just worried I will get played again. I have trust issues with guys, and once I start to believe a guy is going to be there for me he leaves. Also whenever we are drinking he is more affectionate than when we don't drink. He seems shy and hesitant to make moves when we are sober. I am shy too so I am wondering if I should initiate cuddling and kissing when we are sober to see what he's like?

 

Does it sound like he likes me? Should I continue on the "hanging out" path and see what happens or shoukd we talk about things? He knows the deal with my ex and he knows everything that has happened. I say things like "All boys suck" so he knows I am not trusting of men right now. I just really like him....

 

So should I be more forward when we hang out or ask him what his intentions are?

[Fayebelle]

He likes hanging out w/you and doesn't demand sex constantly.... Does that SOUND like a player?

[SmoochieFace]

Nope, he certainly doesn't sound like a "playuh" to me - he sounds quite decent and he seems to really be into you. I believe your friends are correct. Could be a winner here...

[mighty bop]

You had sex way too soon. That probably ruined everything. Plus saying "all boys suck" is not smart. You are only confusing this poor guy even further.

 

Chris