JackieChiles Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 (edited) I recently left my job, and was work friends with this girl at work at the time. We've been texting a lot since I put in my two weeks notice, and for the weeks since that as well. We hung out last week in a group setting at a bar. The other day, she had made some food and she invited me over for dinner tonight at her apartment for finish what was left over. I was there for a few hours, and talked the whole time. It was just so casual, and I feel that she is just so casual that I just can't get a vibe. I never could. I never had a chance to make a move, until I left, and that threw me off guard because when I got there it just did not feel like a date. She makes things feel so casual, and she talks about her ex-boyfriends a lot, one of which she hangs out with (including the night before). She's older than me, doesn't have any single girlfriends, so I can't figure out if she is just someone that hangs out with guys or not. After I left, looking back at it, it totally ended up feeling like a date when it was said and done. I didn't kiss her goodnight or anything, I just didn't feel comfortable in the situation. So, I guess, my question would be how to attack this? We text all the time. Is it a bad idea to text her to go out on a date? Is that informal? Or is that OK given how casual this relationship has been. I guess I'm not used to going after someone who I would consider a friend (although, I wouldn't consider this the friend zone either, we were work pals). She just sends mixed signals and I think she is confused. When the date started, it seemed like nothing. When it ended, it seemed like something. Hints here or there, but I wasn't comfortable. I think an easy text would be, "hey, thanks for the dinner. Can I repay the dinner by taking you out to dinner on a date?". Considering how I can't make dinner until next month regardless for reasons, I think that would be easy. Also, how long until I make the text? Tomorrow? I assume a call is much better though. But she asked me over to dinner through text, so I don't know, I think she's just all mixed up and being casual about it. Sorry, this post probably makes me seem like a moron. But typing it out actually helped a lot for me, and made me understand this better. Just looking for some advice. Thanks. (Also, I make a thread a while back about asking out a co-worker... this is not that co-worker and one reason why I didn't ask her out). Edited April 10, 2013 by JackieChiles
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