od_dear1 Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 Not sure where to begin. I moved into a house share and fell in love with a girl living in another room (foolish I know, but you can't deny chemistry when its mutual) Anyway, after a rocky few months, I found out she had been texting an ex (and lying about it) I read the messages, which were sexually graphic, and quite difficult to read. I did eventually confront her about them and she broke down and felt quite ashamed. Rightly so. We decided to take a break and chill out for a bit and be friends. Then -> House party, I told her that if she wanted to be single and mingle, I didn't want to see it. She said she wasn't interested in anyone else and she meant the break. Cue guy from home, cue flirty, cue the most demeaning night of my existence. I bordered on psychotic to be honest and really felt unstable, seeing them together and shamelessly flirting. I confront her. He's just a close mate from her childhood and NO she would never ever go there... Silly Me. How bad is that I didn't trust her. Uh Oh, instincts were right. Long story short. She is with him now. I am over her. I don't want to be with her. I still find her attractive but inside she is not. I'm moving on, dating and bettering myself. She has him over, but I don't let it bother me. No my responsibility any more. But she won't leave me alone. Constant texting. I am a typical guy, Im not super tidy... the girl is a clean freak. I get that, and have tried to improve in that area, because I want to be a good house-mate. However, I am getting tired of texts blaming me for all sorts of ****. When she gets mad she has sent horrible things. She's on my case. I got out of the bath the other day, went and rinsed it out, and she had identified I had not sprayed bleach in the bath and scrubbed it. This is too much. Last night I got in a 2130 and rang my mum at 2200 and ran a bath, she text me to say she was trying to sleep and could I keep it down, its 10 o'clock and I should always keep it down after 10 and assume she is asleep... then tonight I get in at the same time and she has friends over who make noise until 2300, go to bed, I go down 10 minutes after to pop a microwave meal in the oven and I get a ****ty text - Your making too much noise. Help, I am being controlled and I don't know how to stop it. Usually I am such a strong person and I have no idea why this is happening. Why is she doing it? She's happy now...with someone else... She keeps texting me, is it reasonable to block her number?
Wickedgurl Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 Block. Her. Texts. She has no right to tell you when to eat when to bathe or when to talk to your mom! What a b!!! Ignore her and start looking for a new place to live and finding someone to take your spot there. Maybe her newest boy toy would like it. Don't listen to what she says or demands. You pay rent too and have the right to do whatever you want in your home that isn't harming her. You are obviously a nice person who is hurt and she's taking advantage of it when she's the one who caused it!! Get away from her as soon as you can!
SuperGeek Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 Dude, you need to grow a pair and MOVE TO ANOTHER FLAT. Get away from this woman and move on with your life. Let this be a hard life lesson on why dating a house mate is a horrible idea. If it doesn't work out you have to see them all the time and that can make life really hard. This is the same principle for jobs too, don't date coworkers! Find another place to live and just send her calls/texts/email to the bin. SuperGeek 2
GuyInLimbo Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 Dude, you need to grow a pair and MOVE TO ANOTHER FLAT. Get away from this woman and move on with your life. Let this be a hard life lesson on why dating a house mate is a horrible idea. If it doesn't work out you have to see them all the time and that can make life really hard. This is the same principle for jobs too, don't date coworkers! Find another place to live and just send her calls/texts/email to the bin. SuperGeek Seems like a pretty simple answer, OP. Get the f*ck out of the house and move on with your life. What else are you looking for here? Also, this is the divorce forum. I think this belongs in another spot. (mods?)
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