lul1127 Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 My long distance boyfriend recently sent a FB message to a guy I used to date and asked if we slept together, the guy responded, "what do you think" We did drink heavily and he did spend the night but I honestly do not know and think I was taken advantage of... I have no feelings for this guy and have told him over and over that we were just friends. I understand that I was stupid and should not have hung out with him and he was taking advantage of me but.. We my boyfriend forgive me?
Holyoak Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 My long distance boyfriend recently sent a FB message to a guy I used to date and asked if we slept together, the guy responded, "what do you think" We did drink heavily and he did spend the night but I honestly do not know and think I was taken advantage of... I have no feelings for this guy and have told him over and over that we were just friends. I understand that I was stupid and should not have hung out with him and he was taking advantage of me but.. We my boyfriend forgive me? Boy, this is really messed up... any "evidence" of potential sexual activity? Are you going to take some followup actions in case something did happen? I can tell you, your long distance boyfriend is going to be pissed and severely hurt no matter what happened, and you better get on with helping him with this terrible situation you yourself did, without any input from him. I don't think it is stupid, more like severely selfish, and I hope not compartmentalized so deeply, you can't have the truth come out.
CryForNoOne Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 My long distance boyfriend recently sent a FB message to a guy I used to date and asked if we slept together, the guy responded, "what do you think" We did drink heavily and he did spend the night but I honestly do not know and think I was taken advantage of... I have no feelings for this guy and have told him over and over that we were just friends. I understand that I was stupid and should not have hung out with him and he was taking advantage of me but.. We my boyfriend forgive me? I'm confused. You "used to date" yet you "have no feelings for this guy" and "were just friends"? Which one is it??? Also how can did this topic even come up? Nobody randomly FBs old BFs unless soemthing happened...
sayyes19 Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 My long distance boyfriend recently sent a FB message to a guy I used to date and asked if we slept together, the guy responded, "what do you think" We did drink heavily and he did spend the night but I honestly do not know and think I was taken advantage of... I have no feelings for this guy and have told him over and over that we were just friends. I understand that I was stupid and should not have hung out with him and he was taking advantage of me but.. We my boyfriend forgive me? Your boyfriend "we" forgive you if you give him sex again, but if that doesn't work you should work on not being whorish if you want to keep boyfriends.
ExpatInItaly Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 I don't understand your post. You used to date some guy, and now your current boyfriend is messaging him on Facebook? Why? Did he sleep over recently? I don't get it...
reaver Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 Too funny... she goes out with a "friend" she used to date, she gets drunk with him, she goes to his house... she wakes up nude besides the guy she doesn't have any feeling for completely nude but hey she doesn't know what happened... yeah... I am buying it! There were no "shes" in his description
2sunny Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 My long distance boyfriend recently sent a FB message to a guy I used to date and asked if we slept together, the guy responded, "what do you think" We did drink heavily and he did spend the night but I honestly do not know and think I was taken advantage of... I have no feelings for this guy and have told him over and over that we were just friends. I understand that I was stupid and should not have hung out with him and he was taking advantage of me but.. We my boyfriend forgive me? God - I hope he doesn't forgive you! You get drunk and don't remember if you had sex with someone or not? You don't take responsibility for your stupid actions (drinking that much) - no - he shouldn't forgive you - you haven't admitted you did wrong! Get help! Get to detox! 1
Poppy fields Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 You should be more worried about the fact that you drank to the point of black out. Is that a regular thing for you, or a one time mistake? If it is a problem, there are many resources for you to get clean. Being a black out drunk is dangerous and a waste of life. After you deal with that, then you can work on your relationship with your boyfriend. He has to decide if he can live with the fact that he may never know whether or not you cheated on him.
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