w1ck3d Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 Good evening all, I have been at this new job for about 11months now, it's a pretty big office. When our division moved to another floor I was exposed to a lot of new people. About 6 months ago I noticed this woman who sits opposite but a few desks away keep glancing at me every now and then. We basically have a direct line to see each other as there is a walkaway in between so there is no hiding away behind a monitor or anything. So at first I found this really creepy and off putting. However recently I find that I am really attracted to her and often look over when she isn't looking. When I glance over I notice that sometimes she is already looking too but suddenly looks back at her monitor as if I caught her. Sometimes this has happened to me also but I guess I am more discrete about it and move my eyes in a different direction rather than my head like her (making it pretty obvious). I have done a couple of experiments over the passed few days, for example yesterday I noticed that her hands we raised around her face while she was talking to somebody else and I saw a ring. Her company profile says she is a "miss" so cannot be married, so I am trying to figure out if that is an engagement ring. Although I have been trying to picture what finger I saw the ring on as I believe an engagement ring is on the left hand? I guess a question to the ladies are, do many of you wear rings for fashion or only this kind of thing?! Now here comes the problem, I looked her up on facebook and it says she is 33, shes 10 years older than myself but doesn't look it! In fact I would say I am the one that looks older! With the whole ring situation and the fact that I would never need to speak to this woman in business I am reluctant to even say hi to her because I don't want to involve myself with woman who are already taken! What should or do or should we just continue to look at each other and look away?! Ahhhhh! I am beggining to doubt myself in respect of the fact she may not even like me, it may just be that ONE day she saw me look (as I do to MANY people in the office in a non-sexual way to see what people are up to - people watching I guess) and now thinks that I like her and that she is feeling awkward and has to look incase I am looking (if you get what I mean).
StanMusial Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 Good evening all, I have been at this new job for about 11months now, it's a pretty big office. When our division moved to another floor I was exposed to a lot of new people. About 6 months ago I noticed this woman who sits opposite but a few desks away keep glancing at me every now and then. The next time you catch her looking at you, stand up, turn around and face her square on, then take a deep breath, and scream at the top of your lungs, "WHAT IN THE HELL ARE YOU STARING AT??!!"
Author w1ck3d Posted April 9, 2013 Author Posted April 9, 2013 The next time you catch her looking at you, stand up, turn around and face her square on, then take a deep breath, and scream at the top of your lungs, "WHAT IN THE HELL ARE YOU STARING AT??!!" That would probably go down pretty well to be honest. I work with a bunch of guys, who are extremely sexist, racist and rude. The funny part is that they are of an ethnic minority too and even even senior management call the pretty woman PA's (it's a bluechip firm surprisingly).
ScreamingTrees Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 Just softly whisper in her ear "hey, it's only sexual harassment if you want it to be.." and then lick your lips and give her a seductive look.
ascendotum Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 You are getting carried away here with your 'what if' thoughts. She is a co-worker who you see each day and is across a walkway from you. That's pretty damn close, and in 6 months you have not had a conversation with her?? How about you just chat with her when she is waiting for the printer/photocopier or having lunch in the cafeteria, or leave the same time she does on Friday and ask what's she up to for the weekend as you walk out together, or whatever. Just get to know her a little better by chatting to her. That way you can discover if she has a bf/fiance or not and if not then hopefully you will pick a good vibe from her that she fancies you. 1
KungFuJoe Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 Oh man this reminds me of earlier today. I was leaving class, stood up from my chair and took a step back to get my stuff and I stepped right on the foot of this really cute (kinda looked like Mika Kunis) girl. I mean I stomped on her foot...I'm a big guy that must have hurt. I turned around and apologized expecting her to call me a big oaf or even take a swing at me but she just smiled nervously and kinda chuckled. Does that mean I'm in? I should have shucked her on the chin and said, "here's lookin at you, kid." but the moment had passed unfortunately.
StanMusial Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 You are getting carried away here with your 'what if' thoughts. She is a co-worker who you see each day and is across a walkway from you. That's pretty damn close, and in 6 months you have not had a conversation with her?? How about you just chat with her when she is waiting for the printer/photocopier or having lunch in the cafeteria, or leave the same time she does on Friday and ask what's she up to for the weekend as you walk out together, or whatever. Just get to know her a little better by chatting to her. That way you can discover if she has a bf/fiance or not and if not then hopefully you will pick a good vibe from her that she fancies you. Honestly OP you sound like some sort of stalker. Maybe she is really nervous that you are going to murder her one day so she is trying to keep an eye on you.
phineas Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 I got two women at work who look at me regularly. One wants me or at least is interested but she is going through a divorce & i'm not going there. The other wants me to want her. she's nutzo. OP, tell her to "take a picture, it'll last longer"
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