westjames111 Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 So I am officially 2 1/2 months out from my ex "emotionally" cheating on me behind my back and then leaving me for my "friend". She has drug me along this entire time saying how she still wanted me but just not right now etc. I eventually cut off all contact about 3 1/2 weeks ago, and havent replied to a single message she has sent. She started getting really angry with me last week about how I had done her wrong by seeing someone else now and how pissed she was at me, because she didn't like the new girl I was seen with. I never replied to any of those and it has been about a week now with no more texts from her. It is a good feeling because I know her not contacting me regardless if I reply is only healing me. I know that not replying anymore after what she did to me was the right thing to do and really I have nothing left to say to her, she broke my heart and left me in the dark. With that being said I do get some strange satisfaction of her texting me those things because it shows me she is hurting too. "I am not sure if thats a good thing or normal on my part." With that being said I have had a really crappy past 3 days for some reason. I keep thinking back about all the things I regretdoing or things I could have done in the past to salvage the relationship. I have heard though that once a cheater always a cheater and she did have some emotional "issues". All my friends and even my family say I dodged a bullet and by her letting me go was a blessing in disguise. My friends who know her also said to not let my guard down because she will probably keep sending breadcrumbs or doing her stalkerish thing for awhile. I just dont know why I still feel so bad after its been over 2 months and her doing this to me you would think I wouldn't have these days like this. I am a lot better but it still bothers me. It also bothers me how she is making me out to be the bad person now. She texted me that "I sicken her", all because she thinks i am dating this other girl which we are just really friends. I dont really know what the point of this thread is I just wanted to vent somewhere and I am sure all my friends are tired of hearing it.
Author westjames111 Posted April 9, 2013 Author Posted April 9, 2013 I think another thing that has been bringing me down this week is the feeling of aloneness. I have plenty of friends and my family is supportive but I think after being in a relationship for 2 years I got so use to the idea that being single is still strange to me even though I have been single most of my life. "this was my first real relationship" I see all my friends with their relationships and they seem happy and I'm not. I probably sound ridiculous as I am only 23 but I feel like I am suppose to be getting to the point in my life where I have a steady relationship, because a lot of my friends have already gotten married or had kids. Of course I don't want either of those yet it is just the thought of having someone there.
guysmily25 Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 I think another thing that has been bringing me down this week is the feeling of aloneness. I have plenty of friends and my family is supportive but I think after being in a relationship for 2 years I got so use to the idea that being single is still strange to me even though I have been single most of my life. "this was my first real relationship" I see all my friends with their relationships and they seem happy and I'm not. I probably sound ridiculous as I am only 23 but I feel like I am suppose to be getting to the point in my life where I have a STEADY RELATIONSHIP, because a lot of my friends have already gotten married or had kids. Of course I don't want either of those yet it is just the thought of having someone there. I have highlighted what appear to me to be the most important words about your post, and the words I think you can look to when you start feeling lonely. Sure there may have been some things you could have done to salvage the relationship in the past, but her willingness to attack you after the fact does not denote the steadiness you are looking for. I'm 24, and do I want a steady relationship? Of course! But with everything I know from how my ex reacted to me, do I think a steady relationship would have continued for my entire lifetime? Most likely not. Its ok to feel lonely brother, because you are lonely. I am lonely. In time though, we will find the steady relationship we both deserve 1
Author westjames111 Posted April 10, 2013 Author Posted April 10, 2013 I have highlighted what appear to me to be the most important words about your post, and the words I think you can look to when you start feeling lonely. Sure there may have been some things you could have done to salvage the relationship in the past, but her willingness to attack you after the fact does not denote the steadiness you are looking for. I'm 24, and do I want a steady relationship? Of course! But with everything I know from how my ex reacted to me, do I think a steady relationship would have continued for my entire lifetime? Most likely not. Its ok to feel lonely brother, because you are lonely. I am lonely. In time though, we will find the steady relationship we both deserve Yeah man I know its for the best, and with time I will find the right one. I guess I just have to get the hang of single life again. Its funny, when you are in a relationship single life seems so awesome, but when you are alone you want a relationship. Funny how that works. 1
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