buttacup Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 During the last convo i was upset but not being disrespectful. Simply expressed to him that i was concerned about the amount of time we were spending. I hadnt seen him but once that week due to me initiating and he he spent the whole weekend hanging out w his friends. I guess he didnt like that i confronted him. He previosly told me that he doesnt like conflict and that we wouldnt have arguments (honeymoon stage 8 months comitted and exclusive). I ended the convo by saying i will talk to you later. He completely stopped calling texting whereas any other time he texts every morning. Nothing for two weeks. He had given me the silent treatment once before and i didnt call him for the fear that i would get it again. After 2 weeks i sent his things. He says i broke up w him when i sent his things. I asked via text if he wanted to talk he refuses since he says i broke up w him. Huh?
CompleteFailure Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 After you said you would talk to him later, did you try initiating any contact? It sounds like he was a wuss to break it off with you so he just started acting distant to bait you into doing it first. Not sure why you sent his things without talking to him. It would make sense that he could use that against you as you being the one to break up. If still wanted to be with you though he would chalk that up as miscommunication. If he isn't than its pretty obvious what his intentions were I'd say. 2
Author buttacup Posted April 9, 2013 Author Posted April 9, 2013 When a man stops calling that means he's done. I dont play the mind games with the silent treatment/ cold shoulder. Even if he was upset how was i supposed to know. I sensed game playing.
TaraMaiden Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 No, actually, you did break up with him. but I think he manipulated it that way. Doubtless. Still, it's done now, so if you can, without too much pain or anxiety, start moving on..... 2
Author buttacup Posted April 9, 2013 Author Posted April 9, 2013 Tara i think when he withdrew he expected me to panic and start freaking out. I sensed he was being manipulative. Hes almost 50 geesh. I still think he broke up w me when he pulled away. So tired of these games.
TaraMaiden Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 I know... We get threads on Passive-aggressive types, narcissists, sociopaths, BPD, depressives, control-freaks - But you know what? Sometimes, people are just plain @ssholes.... 1
Mack05 Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 Hes almost 50 geesh.. you meant 15 right? I can only presume the above is a misprint.. 3
Author buttacup Posted April 9, 2013 Author Posted April 9, 2013 Mindgames.com i dont have time. During the last convo i was grieving my dads death a couple weeks before. I was needing him and expressed it and he pulled back. He said the ex wife used to get in his face and scream and holler tryin to get him to communicate w her. Im a woman not a child i dont act like that. 1
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