MMBastard Posted September 20, 2004 Posted September 20, 2004 I just know I was gonna get that Merin.....................I feel the huge urge to go and explain, redeem myself but won't. YOU're RIGHT.........I am moving out, very soon.....but you're completely right...........Damn
guest Posted September 20, 2004 Posted September 20, 2004 MMBastard, I would like to know how your wife feels about all of this. I'm assuming now that you have actually filed for a divorce but can't tell for sure from what you've posted, it seemed maybe you had just typed fake divorce papers and showed them to ssssss. Does your wife want the divorce or did she want to try and save your marriage? And what on earth was going through your head when you lied to ssssss about being married for three months and allowed her to become attached to you? You started off trying to use her for sex and then all of a sudden you fall in love with her and decide to get divorced? How can you ever expect someone to forget that?
ssssss Posted September 20, 2004 Posted September 20, 2004 [color=blue]You have no idea...about anything...the only thing you really know is how to lie...but I'm used to that...does it really matter anymore??? it doesn't, but I hope that one day you'll understand what you did and how many people you f***** up in the process...and one more thing - I was ready to "fight the wars" for you! but you just had to f*** up everything, right? cause life was too boring for you. you know what? I'll get over you eventually, I already did in a way, but you...you'll understand one day, hopefully, what you had, and what you don't have anymore cause of your sick mind...and you'll have to live your f***** up life knowing you had someone who cared about you so much that even all of your lies, manipulation and all the **** that you did to me didn't matter cause I loved you so much that I had put myself on the last place and you as my priority... If you're wondering when - every time I was with you, you lied to me, and I still kept coming back...I will find someone who is capable of giving me 100% of himself...cause that's what I deserve. I never ever wanna be the second in anyones life. and don't expect me to say 'hello' when I see you cause it hurts too much knowing that the only person for who I thought that he's "the one" is the person who hurt me the most...never forget that...and whenever you wanna send me sms, e-mail or whatever, just remember what I think when I see you - the biggest disappointment of my life!!! you don't have to divorce your wife, leave the house or whatever (though I really don't believe you ever would)...not for me...cause if you really wanted me and loved me, you'd do it yourself without me begging you to do that... see, I'm a bit smarter too since reading some of the posts here...thanks to all the people who cared enough to answer even though they've never seen me...isn't it interesting that you had to come here to find out how I feel about what you did from the people you've never seen... thanks to everyone for sharing their opinions...[/color] [color=red]"May the Lord bless you and protect you, may the Lord's face radiate with you because of you, may HE be gracious to you, show you His favor and give you His peace." Numbers 6:24-26[/color]
MMBastard Posted September 21, 2004 Posted September 21, 2004 Originally posted by guest MMBastard, I would like to know how your wife feels about all of this. I'm assuming now that you have actually filed for a divorce but can't tell for sure from what you've posted, it seemed maybe you had just typed fake divorce papers and showed them to ssssss. Does your wife want the divorce or did she want to try and save your marriage? And what on earth was going through your head when you lied to ssssss about being married for three months and allowed her to become attached to you? You started off trying to use her for sex and then all of a sudden you fall in love with her and decide to get divorced? How can you ever expect someone to forget that? Go to my other thread http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t48161/ and read up on the situation with my wife....I've explained it there. She originally didn't want the divorce since she thought this was just a "fling" and we have talked about saving the marriage previously (several months ago). To answer shortly....no they weren't typed up by me, they're genuine (although ssssss thinks they aren't). Ssssss knew about me being married from the get go. We never had sex nor was it ever a reason for being with her. But all this doesn't matter - just answering your question.
guest Posted September 22, 2004 Posted September 22, 2004 Thanks for answering. I guess I have more respect for you that you didn't lie to her from the start, I don't know why people think that is better. Do you think you will divorce then? What caused you to think about it? I am curious because I have been pursued by someone married for several months now and do have feelings for him, not sure what they are since we have never met, it could just be friendship, but have refused to meet him so far. I have told him to work out the problems with his wife or find someone else more compatible to him, because although I am attracted very much to him(not just on a physical level) and although he has been quite supportive/caring in many ways, it is a big problem for me that he is married. I know you say that it's not about sex, but you must have been attracted to ssssss that way also I think or you wouldn' have pursued her in the first place. Thank you for posting here I have wanted to hear the other side of it from someone who was not just out for a sex fling. I hope that things will work out for you for the best whatever you decide to do whether it's to stay with your wife or move on to a new life with or without ssssss.
MMBastard Posted September 23, 2004 Posted September 23, 2004 Originally posted by guest Thanks for answering. I guess I have more respect for you that you didn't lie to her from the start, I don't know why people think that is better. Do you think you will divorce then? What caused you to think about it? I am curious because I have been pursued by someone married for several months now and do have feelings for him, not sure what they are since we have never met, it could just be friendship, but have refused to meet him so far. I have told him to work out the problems with his wife or find someone else more compatible to him, because although I am attracted very much to him(not just on a physical level) and although he has been quite supportive/caring in many ways, it is a big problem for me that he is married. I know you say that it's not about sex, but you must have been attracted to ssssss that way also I think or you wouldn' have pursued her in the first place. Thank you for posting here I have wanted to hear the other side of it from someone who was not just out for a sex fling. I hope that things will work out for you for the best whatever you decide to do whether it's to stay with your wife or move on to a new life with or without ssssss. OK, let me answer some of this..............I guess i'll start with generalization again. Men, being what we are, see a girl they like and more or less can place in two categories (however harsh this may sound).... someone we'd just do (sorry ladies) and someone we'd actually fall in love with (reminiscent of "cute"). I never really was a person who falls in love much.....in previous relationships I'd do the dumping........However, the moment I saw ssssss something inside my head went "ahhhh crap, here we go".... Not knowing her I kept thinking "Naah, I'll never leave my wife, we'll keep this on a friendship level, nothin' is going on anyways...".....well as i got to know her more and more i started realizing how great a person she is, how sweet she is and all previous stuff just went to hell. As for whether I'll get a divorce...yes, since it is the only option for my wife and I...and we both need to start our living our lives again with utmost care for our kid. As for your problem..........I guess you need to meet up with a person, be around him and then decide your strategy....but yeah, he needs to decide as well.....Good Luck
guest Posted September 24, 2004 Posted September 24, 2004 Thanks MMBastard, I feel sorry for men who think this way, the madonna/magdelena complex, they want their wives to be like their mother and then they want to go out and find other women to screw around with. I am worried sometimes he may have some of these attitudes since most men do, I want someone who wants a real relationship with a real woman. I guess I will meet him eventually at least and see what he is like in person. Good luck with your future and I hope you will keep a good relationship with your ex wife and daughter forever.
hurtinheart Posted September 28, 2004 Posted September 28, 2004 you need to make a choice!!!! first you need to leave your wife ur not being fair to her at all!!!! i am married and been cheated on u don't relize the pain u put us through!!! you being honest will hurt but it's better than cheating .... well you have cheated!!!!!just think how you would feel!!!!
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