Author debber01 Posted April 10, 2013 Author Posted April 10, 2013 #1 and #3 just seem like unsophisticated attempts to be funny / flirtatious. They might not be all that bad. #2 was pretty damn rude as it was a little degrading if you ask me. If those were #3's exact words, that's a little tacky. #1 almost seems harmless - I mean you kinda walked into that one... Actually, I did go on one date with #1 and you are right. Perfectly harmless once I told him to slow the hell down! Just didn't feel it though. Like a lot of women, I like tall guys. At least 5'-10"-superficial I know I know....But we are attracted to what we are attracted to...meh...this guy said he was 5'-8" but I figured what the hell. He seemed to be apprehensive about his height so I didn't wear heels. (Keep in mind I'm 4'-11") it was a good thing I didn't or I would have towered above him! He couldn't have been 5'-2"! Wow seriously people. Why lie about height, weight, etc.? I mean, you'll get the first date but you sure won't get a second one! Because, well, if you'll lie about something so superficial, you'll probably lie about more important things as well. Isn't that a natural thing to think?? I also agree that I thought #2 was pretty degrading as well. Meh. He has 3 kids, ages 13, 15 and 17 that live with him so no loss there. I've already raised my kids--don't want to raise someone else's. But you think #3 was ok? From a guy's standpoint? He's really hot. I texted him back and said I thought he was looking for a relationship--pfffttt...so probably blew that one right out of the water! Lol. Thanks for the insight. Did I mention how much dating sucks? Especially when you don't know what the hell you're doing?! Lol.
Author debber01 Posted April 10, 2013 Author Posted April 10, 2013 you're going to have to go through a lot of duds before you get a good one. thats normal. men way outside of 35 to 54 or men who bring up sex don't count. stay far away from them. Hahaha! Which means I may have to continue dating my dogs! Lolol. All of these sexual innuendos have come directly from that age range--35-54. Well, in all actuality, from 41-47! Frightening...
Author debber01 Posted April 10, 2013 Author Posted April 10, 2013 OLD is a GOLDMINE for women. If I was a woman, I would just date from there. You all should consider yourselves lucky that you live in a time where this is a resource. I don't think I'd refer to it as a 'gold mine.' I've found 4 guys that have been potential, POTENTIAL, dates, out of probably 500 contacts in the last month and a half. I wouldn't exactly call that a gold mine! Lol. It's just more crap to sift through. And I'm truly NOT all that picky, superficially-wise. I'm too old to be super picky. That being said, 4 potential dates out of 500 or so possibilities just shows you how BAD it is out there. I don't want to date a 19 year old. I also don't want to date a 79 year old. Yes, 79. WTH is a 79 y/o doing on a dating website in the first place? And how the hell did he find ME?! Lol. Rhetorical questions....and out of those 4 potentials, (things in common, mutual attraction, etc.), ALL have played the sex card before even setting up a FIRST date! Oh yeah. This is truly FUN, this is! Thus my original post....sigh...
CryForNoOne Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 (edited) I don't think I'd refer to it as a 'gold mine.' I've found 4 guys that have been potential, POTENTIAL, dates, out of probably 500 contacts in the last month and a half. I wouldn't exactly call that a gold mine! Lol. It's just more crap to sift through. And I'm truly NOT all that picky, superficially-wise. I'm too old to be super picky. That being said, 4 potential dates out of 500 or so possibilities just shows you how BAD it is out there. I don't want to date a 19 year old. I also don't want to date a 79 year old. Yes, 79. WTH is a 79 y/o doing on a dating website in the first place? And how the hell did he find ME?! Lol. Rhetorical questions....and out of those 4 potentials, (things in common, mutual attraction, etc.), ALL have played the sex card before even setting up a FIRST date! Oh yeah. This is truly FUN, this is! Thus my original post....sigh... 4 potential dates out of 500 and that's not super picky!!! I mean it sounds like it's easier to get into Harvard than get a date with you. I understand that there is a lot of garbage but unless 450 of those "contacts" were 19,79, or creeps that just seems like an insanely low percentage. I mean I've only messaged about maybe 80 women and got 7 dates. If I had to average 125 messages to just be a "potential" date I would have quit OLD a long time ago... EDIT: I'd also add that the 3 "potential" dates you cited as examples, didn't seem particularly impressive based on their cheesy sexual innuendo. Perhaps you need to adjust your criteria? Just saying... Edited April 10, 2013 by CryForNoOne 1
Author debber01 Posted April 10, 2013 Author Posted April 10, 2013 4 potential dates out of 500 and that's not super picky!!! I mean it sounds like it's easier to get into Harvard than get a date with you. I understand that there is a lot of garbage but unless 450 of those "contacts" were 19,79, or creeps that just seems like an insanely low percentage. I mean I've only messaged about maybe 80 women and got 7 dates. If I had to average 125 messages to just be a "potential" date I would have quit OLD a long time ago... EDIT: I'd also add that the 3 "potential" dates you cited as examples, didn't seem particularly impressive based on their cheesy sexual innuendo. Perhaps you need to adjust your criteria? Just saying... I agree. This is SO new to me after 25 years of not having to deal with it. I guess I'm not going to find what I'm looking for on OLD. And yes. To each their own, for sure, but I'm just not into 19-25 year olds, or 62-79 year olds, or, and I apologize in advance because I'm sure this may be someone else's ideal, and i don't intend to offend anyone, but it's just not my ideal--Harley dudes with sleeves of tats & ZZ Top beards & long greasy hair. Really not trying to stereotype at all. It just seems to be what I attract! And it just isn't for me. Strangely enough, I made a living playing in rock bands for years. But there's a dif between the hot musician with beautiful long gorgeous hair (think Dave Z) and the skanky, greasy sleezy tats dude thing. Again. To each their own. I'm just attracted to what I'm attracted to, and I can't change that. Yet again, I also love the Corporate look. Lol. So I'm all over the place. Attracted to a lot of different types; prob is there is ONE type I'm NOT attracted to....which is what I seem to attract.... So how many ppl have I pissed off with THIS post?! Lol.
thefooloftheyear Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 I agree. This is SO new to me after 25 years of not having to deal with it. I guess I'm not going to find what I'm looking for on OLD. And yes. To each their own, for sure, but I'm just not into 19-25 year olds, or 62-79 year olds, or, and I apologize in advance because I'm sure this may be someone else's ideal, and i don't intend to offend anyone, but it's just not my ideal--Harley dudes with sleeves of tats & ZZ Top beards & long greasy hair. Really not trying to stereotype at all. It just seems to be what I attract! And it just isn't for me. Strangely enough, I made a living playing in rock bands for years. But there's a dif between the hot musician with beautiful long gorgeous hair (think Dave Z) and the skanky, greasy sleezy tats dude thing. Again. To each their own. I'm just attracted to what I'm attracted to, and I can't change that. Yet again, I also love the Corporate look. Lol. So I'm all over the place. Attracted to a lot of different types; prob is there is ONE type I'm NOT attracted to....which is what I seem to attract.... So how many ppl have I pissed off with THIS post?! Lol. You say you arent picky, yet you repeatedly bring up wanting a guy thats tall. You are 4-11...You dont think you can handle being with a guy thats, say, 5-6 and has everything on your wish list? Heck, even "short" me would "tower" over you.. I just dont get the whole height thing with women...OK , so I am 5-6. Yet, I am in better health, look better, have more hair, built better, etc than most guys my age(at least in my circle-im just a bit younger than you)...Most guys our age that are 6' plus have bad knees, bad backs, and a host of other issues that you might not see in a shorter guy.. PS...Dont take anything too serious-just havin fun.. Good luck on your search.!! TFOY
reaver Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 Im flabbergasted you give guys like this the time of day. Just being honest. Its blatantly obvious this guy is a womanizer and/or just wants sex from you. I mean, it is blatantly. obvious. Some of the threads here are painful to read, my lord.
Author debber01 Posted April 10, 2013 Author Posted April 10, 2013 Im flabbergasted you give guys like this the time of day. Just being honest. Its blatantly obvious this guy is a womanizer and/or just wants sex from you. I mean, it is blatantly. obvious. Some of the threads here are painful to read, my lord. Which one?? Seriously. I'm trying to figure this all out. Haven't been with another man in 25 years. Struggling here. Which one do you think is the womanizer?
Author debber01 Posted April 10, 2013 Author Posted April 10, 2013 if its 4 out of 500 you've got to be eliminating good ones. its easy to do this online. eg if you want a certain height, weight, hair color. easy to throw out a non match online. but offline you might have given him a try. You are absolutely right. Which is what really sucks about OLD. With OLD it's almost like going into a restaurant and putting in your order. And if it's not perfect, you send it back. But IRL, you may find that you have chemistry with someone that you wouldn't even consider OLD. I totally get that. You are absolutely right. But getting back to the original topic--as a guy, would you do the sexual innuendos in person if you met someone that you thought might work for you? Or is it easier to do those sexual innuendos when you are hiding behind a computer screen? Just asking. Trying to understand.
Estate Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 I've been thrown back into the dating pool after 25 years so I'm not sure if this is the new normal or what. I've been doing OLD, and have been contacted by 4 guys that I'd go on a first date with. In the communications before a real date is even set up, every single guy has alluded to sex, in some way, either outright or by making allusions to it. BEFORE the date is even set up!! Is this: -The new normal -My people picker is way off -On line dating in general -Younger men (I'm 49, but these are guys that are between 41-47, so not that much younger) Thanks for any insight. I'm pretty perplexed by this. I truly don't believe that I'm throwing that type of vibe out there. In fact, I'll only answer profiles that state 'looking for a relationship.' If this is the 'new' way of pre screening dates, I think I'll just stay home with my dogs! Lol. Guys think about sex. Fact. But lets be honest... doing this is just crass... I'd hold off and talk to some more guys.
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