biggysmilez Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 it's been 1.5 months since BU. i've got my ups and downs, but, in general, i'm more positive about the future and what life has in store for me next. however, when i check my phone and e-mail, i still hope for contact from my ex. it is so irrational and i know that he isn't going to contact me, but i still hope. why is this? i feel crazy and it is holding me back, but i don't know how to change my brain from thinking this way.
blindhope Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 I know I do the same and Im 2.5 monts out and have no reason to want or expect her to reach out, but each time my phones beeps, that's where my mind goes. For me I think it's kind of a validation. It stings that someone left you whether for someone else or just to be on their own, they chose not to be with us. And that just sucks. For me, after a LTR, someone who became such a mess so quickly chose someone who is nothing like me. Makes my mind think how, why, etc. So them coming back would atleast show that they valued who we are. Even though that ins't true, it's just ow it feels in this temporary state of mind
Sugarkane Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 (edited) I can relate. I was dumped out of the blue and have never been contacted to this day. Unlike most people on here, not even years later. It would've been polite to at least ask me if I was ok, considering I had no idea I was going to get dumped. I would've liked some validation that I at least actually meant something, as I was his most serious relationship. Edited April 10, 2013 by Sugarkane 1
RiceaRoni Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 Im still waiting... 5/6 months now. But you start to lose hope and relaize that you wont care if they contact you or not.
h3braica Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 hoping for a contact of ex is natural in a couple of months after the BU, i guess. this is based in my own experience because we miss being around them but the feeling won't change over night. been 3 mos and 2 weeks of BU but I am still shocked of the separation. what i feel about him now is anger and I am hating myself why BU keeps playing on my mind over and over again.
Author biggysmilez Posted April 10, 2013 Author Posted April 10, 2013 i wonder if shock plays a factor in this as well. i was completely blindsided by the breakup. i also want the re-playing of BU in my mind to go away. it feels like mental illness, honestly. it is so intrusive. and i know it is natural, but i just want to feel better. 2
h3braica Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 i wonder if shock plays a factor in this as well. i was completely blindsided by the breakup. i also want the re-playing of BU in my mind to go away. it feels like mental illness, honestly. it is so intrusive. and i know it is natural, but i just want to feel better. i want to feel better too since day 1 of BU but i don't know how. i feel like i am losing my mind. i don't want us to get back together i just want to forget the past but it's soooo hard.
Jord11 Posted April 11, 2013 Posted April 11, 2013 I'm day 51 nc, deactivated FB, I still had her as a friend i completely disappeared from her life, she broke up with me, I hope she still cares and misses what she gave up, because I was nothing but the best to her, I wonder if she cares enough to wonder how I'm doing I also check my phone seeing if she called or texted me
uniqwa Posted April 11, 2013 Posted April 11, 2013 (edited) Give up hope.. He/she moved on.. You should do the same.... I am going through the same thing sort of.. I know he doesn't want me, doesn't love me.. I don't think positively towards the whole situation, I just can't let go of the man I loved, it's like an elephant carrying it's dead baby sort of thing.. It's dead.. YOU literally know it's not coming back to life, but you cling to memories.. Just carry around the past and the heartache as such.... UNTILL you meet someone who is able to give the "butterflies"... Then you go on and you're in love all over again ^_^ so don't lose hope.. It'll take a while.. but it happens... I've talked to a lot of people on the sub (; Edited April 11, 2013 by uniqwa
Emma11 Posted April 12, 2013 Posted April 12, 2013 This what I feel a lot too...2 months later. It was out of the blue. He said some lies and said nasty things to me...yet, I keep having this thought everytime I see him or hear him, things will go back to normal. It's the worst feeling in the world knowing that someone is replacing you and not caring, like you meant nothing. 2
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