rdsmith Posted September 15, 2004 Posted September 15, 2004 Hi guys, how is everybody doing? Me, not to great. Can somebody help me. I have been seeing this guy for 2 years now, and we are engaged. Monday night he decided to tell me that he cheated on me the friday night before. And I don't just mean a kiss. I don't know what to do. My heart is telling me to leave. My mind is telling me to stay. I just don't want to leave what I know, what I love... I know that cheating is not right. I've never done it. And I don't understand how someone can tell me that he loves me and then do the one thing that would hurt me the most.
Papillon Posted September 15, 2004 Posted September 15, 2004 If I may paraphrase tikibrandy: 1) Backhand a mofo 2) Dump a mofo
Starnette83 Posted September 15, 2004 Posted September 15, 2004 if you forgive him or he sees you stay -HE WILL DO IT AGAIN!!!!!!!! how can u trust him now?
Merin Posted September 15, 2004 Posted September 15, 2004 Please trust me on this..... I've been the one cheated on, he begged me not to leave him blah blah blah he knew I loved him a lot, and I had always told him before it ever happened that cheating was a deal breaker for me. Well, like a dumbass I didn't leave him, I decided to give him another chance..... that was another chance to screw me over and lie some more. In my mind staying with him just said "Hey it's okay that you did that to me, i'm all good with it so if you do it again just know I will still be there for you"
Butchey Posted September 15, 2004 Posted September 15, 2004 "I don't understand how someone can tell me that he loves me and then do the one thing that would hurt me the most." There's your answer- He doesn't love you. Follow your heart.
Author rdsmith Posted September 16, 2004 Author Posted September 16, 2004 Yeah, I know I would be stupid to stay. But, he came home yesterday with a different story for me. He said that they only kissed. He said he lied to find out how I really feel about him. So now I have 2 stories. I think I need to confront her.
Butchey Posted September 16, 2004 Posted September 16, 2004 She is not your problem, he is. Try to open the lines of communication and get everything out in the open. You need to have total honesty if you are going to have a future with him. What he did is indefensible. It is good you find out now before you are married. If you want to make it work you have to go back and start from the begining.
ltomlinson81 Posted September 16, 2004 Posted September 16, 2004 I just broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years after he cheated. It was the hardest thing I have done, but I know in the long-run, it will be best. Once a cheater, always a cheater. He will do it again. And even if he doesn't, you will never fully trust him and may never forgive him. Do what is best for you, but consider leaving him. You deserve better. Not everyone out there will betray you.
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