Rocky road Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 My relationship of 5 years ended less than two months ago. I am in control now in that I told her I could not be friends, and ignored a bday text a couple weeks ago where she was "thinking" of me and blah blah blah. Well, I went on a few dates and had some good times, however I realized that I am just not ready for the dating game rejection. I used to not care at all! Did I suddenly turn into a pansy? anyone else go through this? I have not had rebounds because I can't!
MW93i Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 You simply just aren't ready YET I'd say. Give yourself time.
geegirl Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 My relationship of 5 years ended less than two months ago. I am in control now in that I told her I could not be friends, and ignored a bday text a couple weeks ago where she was "thinking" of me and blah blah blah. Well, I went on a few dates and had some good times, however I realized that I am just not ready for the dating game rejection. I used to not care at all! Did I suddenly turn into a pansy? anyone else go through this? I have not had rebounds because I can't! Five years is a long time, Rocky. It's going to take much more than 2 months to completely feel emotionally whole and independent from the relationship. You didn't turn into a pansy. It's normal to feel the fear of rejection and it's something that you will overcome as you keep moving forward towards total healing. There is no rush to date nor is it an indication of who you are if you choose not to. Infact, it's commendable that you were able to place boundaries when she contacted you and that you choose not to date based on your awareness and acceptance as to how you feel. Most will jump into dating, regardless of them knowing it's not right for them just to escape the pain and be open to communication from the ex. I believe you are on the right track! You'll date when you are ready to date and you'll know when its time.
TheFriend Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 I have been on a few dates and at first the sucked. All I would do is compare to what I lost, now I more notice the better qualities thes women have. I even kissed one that gave me those butterfly feelings while kissing her. I NEVER thought I would feel that again! But yes. It still sucks for a while. I am 2.5 month post b/u.
Chi townD Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 I do agree that you are definitely NOT ready to date seriously. BUT! There's nothing wrong with going out on te town with a pretty girl for no other reason but to have a good time out. Nothing more and nothing less. No strings attached and no pressure. If you go into the date with this mindset, then you would be able to relax and so will she. It might end up being a more enjoyable night for you.
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