vanhalenfan Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 (edited) I'm not going to go into details, but what are good methods or tactics to get over an unrequited love? The man I have spontaneously fallen for is off-limits and I have been friend-zoned Issues include a large age difference - more so his hang-up than mine, he just got out of a very long-term relationship (he's very hurt by the break-up) and I am still in the middle of a divorce...So you can see this is just too messy, complicated, and best left alone. I still think about him all of the time and I'm having a lot of trouble just letting it go. Nothing ever got off the ground, I was just immediately friend-zoned when (I believe) he realized I had feelings for him. I hate unrequited love. Edited April 9, 2013 by vanhalenfan
Eggplant Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 It can be excruciating. Time and distance will lessen the pain. Allow yourself to cry and don't fight it. Have faith that you will heal and find love again with somebody available.
SuperGeek Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 You need to implement no-contact and distance yourself. Over time you will just move on.
Pirate40 Posted April 25, 2013 Posted April 25, 2013 I can empathize with you. Your situation sounds similar to mine. I'm going through a divorce and began dating a girl at my work who I had been friends with. We had always had a great time hanging out and then we went out three actual dates which seemed to go really well. Something happened I think maybe I started putting off some clingy vibes even though I felt I was disguising it. This was all very early in my separation so i was vulnerable. Or maybe she just felt the whole thing of me still legally being married or us working together ran her off. The only answer I got when she broke it off was it just doesn't feel right. I was devastated as I had looked at this as a new start and full of hope. Bad thing is I can't go no contact since I work with her. She still IMs me at work everyday and occasionally text me on my phone. I don't initiate any of the convos but I do respond but keep everything kinda bland. Our convos are not the same as they were before we started dating. There's non of the flirty messages anymore. It hurts like hell because it seemed like there was something there and it just disappeared. I like to tell myself it was just bad timing with my pending divorce and my fragile emotional state at the time. It does get better though each day I feel a little stronger. Hang in there. Better days are coming.
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