Ashlyn Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 Need help. I have an issue w a close male friend of mine. Lately it seems its not so platonic to me. Let me explain. We have never dated, we hang with a mutual group of ppl. Anyway he has a girlfriend. I know her and know some of her past history as well as her current history w my friend. She's not a good person let alone girlfriend. I don't even think he really likes her. I know that sounds crazy obviously he does maybe he has me fooled but in past convos there is never anything good said. It's gotten to the point that I have literally told him I don't want to talk abt his relationship at all. Bc it's always just so negative and I am generally a happy go lucky type of person who puts up with unnecessary bs so I just don't want to be involved. Anyway fast forward to now. I know for a fact that he hangs out with me more than his gf. This has started to make me a little uneasy as if I had a boyfriend, I don't think he would be very happy abt me hanging with a friend let alone a male one more than him. It's not due to scheduling conflicts or that they have a ldr, no he just txts, calls and fb me all the time to hang out. I try not to pry as I've told him b4 I don't want to talk abt his relationship but I will ask general questions like o where is your gf? His usual response is that she is at home. They live less than 10 mins away from each other. It's gotten to the point where he will meet up w me or try to find out my whereabouts. He txts me nearly every day asking "where are u" then he will go hang out w her for maybe an hr or 2 tops and then he will come meet up w to hang out. The most recent example of how odd I think the scenario is was this past weekend. He went away for a cpl days. B4 he got back he was txting me telling me he was coming home and wanted to hang out. He then calls me like 20 mins after he was home asking me to come over. His roomie was there but left shortly after i arrive and we hung out for a bit but I told him I had to go after abt an hr. maybe 30 mins after I left no exaggeration he calls me and wants me to go drink w him. I said where is ur gf and apparently they were in some kind of fight but instead of him trying to fix things w her he's trying to get me to drink w him. I declined the invite and went to sleep. When I woke up he had txt me twice, fb messaged me and called me (this was btw like 10p-2a) drunk or not does anyone else think this is a little bit of strange behavior for a taken man? Maybe I'm overanalyzing. I do that a bit but I just wanted to see what other ppl thought before I actually try to talk to him abt it.
NervisPervis Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 Are you asking if he LIKES you , likes you? This post needs to go in the museum of "do you girls REALLY not know that all of your guy pals want to bang you?" Oh. He wants to bang you. Of that I have ZERO doubt. I'm starting to wonder if that's really your question. 1
Noproblem Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 Are you asking if he LIKES you , likes you? This post needs to go in the museum of "do you girls REALLY not know that all of your guy pals want to bang you?" Oh. He wants to bang you. Of that I have ZERO doubt. I'm starting to wonder if that's really your question. Don't make life black or white...Not all guys are like this...Some guys are real friends ..... I refuse to believe that all guys are sick creatures who only care about Sex! 1
NervisPervis Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 ...Some guys are real friends ..... I refuse to believe that all guys are sick creatures who only care about Sex! If that makes you feel better... Do you have ANY doubt this guy wants to screw her? I don't. 1
Author Ashlyn Posted June 20, 2013 Author Posted June 20, 2013 Thanks for your responses. I guess I wanted insight on if it seemed like he liked me which at this point I think it's clear as day for me. Update is him and his gf broke up shortly after I posted this. Not shocking. Him hanging out with me so much was a cause of that. 1 cause of many but it still mad his gf very mad but he refused to stop hanging with me and reminds me of his loyalty to me. Our friendship has hit some weird snags. Jealousy flares up from time to time and we fight like we're a cpl yet we have never done anything w each other. I will get drunk and stay at his house and nothing. The biggest dead giveaway that he likes me was that he introduced me to his mom. He didn't introduce his ex gf to her and previously told me he would not introduce ANY girl to his mom... Granted I ran into them. He was outside w his mom and I happened abt the same place and was walking in but he is still so weird he totally didnt have to introduce me. I am just confused. He says I'm his best friend and we totally are but I can't help but think there is something else there. We hung out a lot b4 but now he's trying to literally hang out w me everyday. He hooks up w randoms but still at the end of the day who is he cooking dinner for and trying to chill w. me. I'm so confused. I hate not knowing. Do I have an awesome best friend that loves me as a friend or is it more? Fack!!!!! 1
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