Emb123 Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 Ok, so since the beginning of this shool semester my boyfriend has been bringing up this one girl that he is in a group project with quite a bit. He was in another group but it wasn't working out and he didn't get along with one of the people in that group, so he asked this girl if he could be in her group and she said they could add another person. So after he joined the group he goes "I hope she doesn't think I like her or something because I wanted to join her group, guess I'll try to drop the gf hint," which I kind of thought was a weird comment. Then throughout the next couple of weeks he seemed to bring her up a lot, and wasn't bringing up anyone else in his group. So I finally came out and asked him if he liked her or was attracted to her or if something was going on. He said "No, no way. I just bring her up a lot because she is in two of my classes and in my group." then a week later he makes some comment "That girl's boyfriend stopped by our class today which was weird." And I said "Why is that weird?" and he said "Well....she just never brought up that she had a bf, so I thought it was weird." Then, the last time he brought her up it was almost like he was overly trying to act like he didn't like her by saying "God, that girl is so stupid. She had this formula completely wrong, blah, blah, blah." I know that when people are trying to hide something like this they try to convince you that there is nothing going on or nothing there by overly stating they don't like them. Finally, now i have been very skeptical of everything going on, I've asked him a couple of times about her and he always denies it. So I went on his facebook to see if I could find anything and saw that there was a friend request waiting from the girl that he hadn't accepted. Why would he not accept her friend request unless there was something weird going on? I just have the weird feeling about the whole thing. I don't know if I'm being paranoid or if this is a real cause for concern. I honestly just don't know what to do.
will1988 Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 I will be upfront, as someone who is kind of in your BF shoes at the moment (read my earlier threads for more info)... your BF likes this girl. I have literally been in a very similar situation with my crush (except... I slipped out a few things at first which POd my GF so I learned real quick to never mention her... even in a bad way, thinking my gf would aprove). Although, we've been friends for a year two (never hung out outside of school). I've got a crush on her. However, I love my GF and would never cheat on her, even if this girl offered it... which I'm hoping she wouldn't, because she is engaged to some guy. MY GF has had a few crushes before but has remained faithful... crushes are natural things to have. So the best thing you can do is hope the end of the semester comes faster and hope your BF is an honorable guy like I am. I would just leave it be, or step up your game. However, if it becomes a problem, confront him about it... if he is unwilling to change, then you should probably leave him. good luck!
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