siankat Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I just found out my ex is going to visit his female colleague who has since relocated back to her own country...why does that hurt so bad? Is it because i can now add her to the list of people he might have cheated on me with? Because not only did i idealise him but now i'm going to idealise their 'relationship'? This situation brings up that small nagging feeling that maybe i didn't try hard enough..i'm sure it's temporary but, this site is great for times you don't want to be lonely in these kinda thoughts so, any of yours would be appreciated on why it even matters who he is seeing. Thanks
CompleteFailure Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 I think it hurts because you were secretly holding on to hope that he might come back to you, first? You should remind yourself of all his faults small and big and the ones no one but you would put up with. Now just think how annoying that's going to be for this new girl and revel in their tough times ahead!
Author siankat Posted April 9, 2013 Author Posted April 9, 2013 You are so right but i still wanna be sick
Author siankat Posted April 9, 2013 Author Posted April 9, 2013 i cant believe it i feel like i have just slipped back down a very slippery slope that i struggled to climb and now i have less energy to get back up and climb it (
CompleteFailure Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 If you tell yourself you feel it, you will. Instead, ask yourself why have you slipped? Climbing is overrated. Take a break where you are. Rest up, journeys not over yet. You got teammates though. We will all wait with you. 1
Author siankat Posted April 9, 2013 Author Posted April 9, 2013 I slipped because curiosity got the better of me and i thought i could handle it. Your words are concise and insightful. Thank you
Author siankat Posted April 9, 2013 Author Posted April 9, 2013 Hehe i spose i think that she must be with him because he's a changed man from the behaviours that made me call it quits and therefore he's so great now. But it's probably more so that some women go out with crap men
all_cats_rgray Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 It matter's because we think all the things we where missing are in this new person. But when your ex say's they want a independent, self sufficient person...and they start dating a 20 year old dancer. You begin to question their sanity.
CompleteFailure Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 I slipped because curiosity got the better of me and i thought i could handle it. Your words are concise and insightful. Thank you So now that you know it was your curiosities fault that caused you too slip. You can feel better about knowing that. You did handle it, I can tell in the way you're writing.
Author siankat Posted April 9, 2013 Author Posted April 9, 2013 Your words are immensly comforting thank you. I see the funny side but at the same time, tears are flowing.
Author siankat Posted April 9, 2013 Author Posted April 9, 2013 But you gave my soul peace to sleep tonight. Thank you
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