jen_r Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 My ex has suddenly creeped back into my life. He sent flowers to my house and a LONG email after not speaking for 3 months. I was realllly reluctant to even listen to what he had to say but he was very persistent. So, we hung out twice and I told him that maybe I will give him a chance but I want to take things extremely slow. So then he tells me that he's slept with someone else. Well, actually, he asked if I did and I said no and then I asked him and he said yes, in a way that seemed like he wanted me to back off...I dunno, I just got a weird vibe. Anywho, it really bothered me and I told him I didn't want to work things out with him. I don't see how you can say that you "loved me, have always loved me" and "never wanted anyone but me" but yet stick your dick in someone else? Am I the only one who feels this way? Did I over-react? He says "you think of sex as too important...sex is sex, get over it."
guysmily25 Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 Hey Jen, sorry to hear about this. I think if he broke up with you, he should be apologizing and begging rather than telling you that sex is just sex. I personally don't think sex is just sex, and if you don't either, then what he did was wrong. He satisfied his urge and then realized what he was missing with you and came back. Only you can decide if you want to forgive him; if you can't, then he may take his tea elsewhere! 1
singme2sleep Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 Hey Jen, sorry to hear about this. I think if he broke up with you, he should be apologizing and begging rather than telling you that sex is just sex. I personally don't think sex is just sex, and if you don't either, then what he did was wrong. He satisfied his urge and then realized what he was missing with you and came back. Only you can decide if you want to forgive him; if you can't, then he may take his tea elsewhere! I totally agree! My ex broke up with me, and if he came back and said he wanted to reconcile but also told me he had slept with another girl while we were apart...I'd be really upset. It's not technically cheating but still feels like a betrayal. So you have to decide if you can get past this or not. It all depends on how much you love him. But to answer your question, no I don't think you overreacted.
lastresort Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 I say no way should him back. He is feeling guilt for sleeping with someone else. Probably didn't have the connection and realizes how important you were to him now. Grass is not greener. If you do want him back you need to play a lot harder ball than he wants. Ball is your court, you will do what you feel is right. Good luck.
OwlSoul Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 Am I the only one who feels this way? If my ex would even casually date someone else while the break-up, I would say 100% no to getting back. Did I over-react? Well, 50 to 50, you over-reacted as well as felt something is deffinetely wrong and not going to work. I would not personally follow any advises on this forum, since people reflect their own experience to the situations and people they absolutely do not know. If you'd like a real advice, go for real-life friend's one. Someone, who knows the situation, cares about you and etc. 1
Author jen_r Posted April 9, 2013 Author Posted April 9, 2013 If my ex would even casually date someone else while the break-up, I would say 100% no to getting back. Well, 50 to 50, you over-reacted as well as felt something is deffinetely wrong and not going to work. I would not personally follow any advises on this forum, since people reflect their own experience to the situations and people they absolutely do not know. If you'd like a real advice, go for real-life friend's one. Someone, who knows the situation, cares about you and etc. I can't really ask any friends or family - they HATE him and don't even know that I was talking to him. He won't even speak to me now anyways, he blocked my number and told me to move on. So, I guess my problem is solved. Even if I did over-react...I think I did myself a favor.
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