Important paperwork re: NC

[thefooloftheyear]

I just found some important paperwork in my office that should go to the ex. Might even need it for her taxes. I have been in strict NC and havent heard in about a month. (I never broke NC, but she has caught me off guard at my business). Anyway, I am thinking just put it in an envelope, and send it. The problem is it really should go via certified mail or some other more secure form of delivery. I dont want any drama, so what to do?

 

Text her a "business like" text, and tell her that I am sending it and to look out for it? I am concerned that if I dont say anything she'll think I am trying to send some sappy letter to make her feel bad, and she wont pick it up, or...?

 

How to deal with this.??

 

Thanks

 

TFOY

[TearyEyedPride]

Honestly, I'd just send it, no text, no email. I mean if it's certified and she has to sign for it, then they'll leave her a little notice if she misses it. Then she may pick it up from whatever hub they'll hold it at.

 

Personally, you sending a text can be you trying to do the right thing, or feeling that inner need to reach out to her. I'm honestly not sure. I just feel like all the little small gestures that people consider usually backfire when their ex doesn't respond the right way, or they use it to pull you in and further play with your feelings.

 

Not that this is true for everyone... I've just seen the pattern quite a few time. In the end... make the best decision for your circumstances.

[Am4Real]

Sending personal items necessary for life, taxes and personal belongings are not braking NC. Just put it in an envelope and send it. Certified mail? what does that matter?

 

Not sure why you need advise on this?

[ChrisC81]

Send a short text saying look out for your paperwork, and send it. Done. This isn't really that big of a deal. And not related to the relationship at all so I don't feel this is "breaking NC"

[geegirl]

Send certified mail. On the envelope write, "tax documents enclosed" or "documents enclosed for tax purposes." If these documents are important to her, she would have asked for it by now and if she's figuring out how to get them from you, she'll be curious/sure to open an envelope that is labeled as such.

 

There is no need to text. If anything, I have a feeling you're finding a reason to break the ice.

Edited April 8, 2013 by geegirl

[thefooloftheyear]

There is no need to text. If anything, I have a feeling you're finding a reason to break the ice.

 

And give up what has been the best decision I have ever made?

 

Not on your life, sweety:p..

 

Its important stuff. She probably forgot I have it. I had forgotten myself and found it when I straightened my office up. She WILL positively need it or its gonna be a pain in the neck.

 

Im just gonna send it certified mail, no text. If she fails to pick it up...thats her problem. I did my part.

 

Thanks. peeps!!

 

TFOY

[ThatJustHappened]

And give up what has been the best decision I have ever made?

 

Not on your life, sweety:p..

 

Its important stuff. She probably forgot I have it. I had forgotten myself and found it when I straightened my office up. She WILL positively need it or its gonna be a pain in the neck.

 

Im just gonna send it certified mail, no text. If she fails to pick it up...thats her problem. I did my part.

 

Thanks. peeps!!

 

TFOY

 

If you don't miss her or care what she thinks anymore then why is it a big deal to break NC?

[geegirl]

If it was the best decision you made, then there was no need to ask. As Am4Real stated, not sure why you needed advice on this.

[thefooloftheyear]

If you don't miss her or care what she thinks anymore then why is it a big deal to break NC?

 

Sure I miss/care...Probably always will in some form..Just dont want to go backwards. Im just about over it completely.

 

TFOY

[thefooloftheyear]

If it was the best decision you made, then there was no need to ask. As Am4Real stated, not sure why you needed advice on this.

 

Thanks for your input. Appreciate it.

 

TFOY