taiko Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 The dude I've been dating since Feb seriously dated a stripper in the past for three years. The story goes like this: They started dating, fell in love, she bartended. About six months in, she drops the bomb that she had been a stripper at one point and was going to do it again, because money was so tight. At this point he was head over heels in love and couldn't bring himself to break things off. Would this bother you? I guess I would just hope that my dude would want to sell the shirt off his back rather than see his lady on the pole. He just says he's not the "jealous" type. I'm not gonna lie, this has definitely affected my opinion of him. I told him it's hard for me to wrap my head around the fact that he could take her seriously after that. *sigh. Always something isn't it? So is your concern is because he did not protect her and shield her from sex work if push comes to shove he will step aside or pimp you out and not protect you? I think there is reason for that concern.
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 I wouldn't not date him because of that, who cares? I mean it's kind of gross to date strippers but I guess it happens.. Channing Tatum is a former stripper and I would totally date him.
neveragain34 Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 I'm not really sure he was in a position to do that, since he was in a PhD program at the time. He did tell me that he always encouraged her to go back to school, which she eventually did, and became a nurse. Well, if she really did go to school and become a nurse (a real nurse, not technical school nurse's aid's aid lol), then she is an exception to the rule and probably wasn't like most strippers out there. Nursing school is not easy at all from what I've heard, so she must be smart and probably didn't get sucked up in the sleezy life that many of them do. I'd let it slide, especially if it was a long time ago.
hppr Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 Honestly, giving a guy a strike over dating a girl that bartended topless isn't going to win you any points. As long as he was faithful and treated her with respect I don't see how it matters. Really sounds to me like it was her idea anyways so really the only issue might be him being too nonchalant.
SmileFace Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 Am I missing the part where he was the stripper? What difference does this make to you? Stripping is illegal so I really don't see why it bothers you.
apple OR orange Posted April 9, 2013 Posted April 9, 2013 i know guys who have paid for sex which seems to be another major issue with most women. If it bothers you, leave him, however the fact you are asking the question says you know you shouldnt leave as thats judging him.
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